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I don't know how well I'd do around college people for the same reasons I've stated on here before (people there are more advanced; smarter, more mature, knowledge on a lot of stuff I don't know) It'll just be a struggle to not embarrass myself with how stupid and slow I am. It wouldn't be a good situation.

BTW, don't you have to be enrolled into the college in order to attend the clubs?

A girl might not put it on her list of desirable traits in a man, because it isn't much of a quality or a reason for dating... It's more of a sign that the person on the other side of the keyboard is intelligent and eloquent and worth talking to.

You do make a good impression when writing, so try to engage a girl in a conversation (find a girl who likes vigeo games or anime, etc.) Make a good first impression this way. Later you can show her your photo and/or talk to her.

I have no idea what southern-illiterate-drawl might be, but you can explain to her (once she's interested in you and once you've spent some time messaging her) that you have some problems in verbal communication.

And, the most important is that you shouldn't talk bad about yourself or call yourself stupid, slow, etc. That will make the girls run away more than any southern illiterate drawl (WHAT is that thing anyway?)

It means that I have a really hard time pronouncing different words and at often times I talk kinda fast so people sometimes don't always catch what I'm saying.

Combine that with the fact that I have a deep southern accent, I come off sounding very dumb, slow, and illiterate.

I don't myself any favors when I open my mouth, so I try to keep as quiet as possible to avoid embarrassing myself.

Contact the college or club to see about that.

As far as how awkward you'd be, well, no tries, no results. That said, I think college students seem like huge a**holes and I don't really wish to go to college partially for that reason.

Now your just making excuses You don't have to bring a date to your house, like in my scenario you could meet elsewhere but before it even got to that point she would know you so well she wouldn't care whether you had an immaculate home, or that it wasn't in a great part of town, that kind of thing is not a factor in a relationship early on (only when your thinking of moving in together would it potentially be a problem), you could always tidy up too in the event you did ask her back to your place.

The conventions has been covered by 1000Knives, if you get talking with people they may offer to give you a ride, a costume is not essential etc. BUT...that is just for actual physical socialisation, to start with find a forum revolving around one of your interests, I'll give you a head start;

Anime forums

http://www.animeforum.com/forum.php

http://www.anime-forums.com/

http://www.animeonline.net/

Console gaming forums

http://www.xbox360forum.com/xbox-forum/forum.php

http://forums.planetxbox360.com/

http://community.us.playstation.com/

http://www.psu.com/forums/forum.php

http://www.wiichat.com/

http://www.wiitalk.co.uk/forums/

General gaming forums

http://www.video-game-forums.com/forums/

http://www.gamesforum.com/

Sign up, get talking and have fun! And as Deconstruction mentioned do not talk badly about yourself, it will only put people off. Again try to think about the other person if it were you would you want to talk to someone who constantly complained about themselves and their situation or would you rather talk to someone who will talk about the anime, game or whatever the subject of the forum is?

As for your 'southern drawl' some women will find it attractive. Taking my own accent for example, I was brought up in a city called Liverpool and as such have a scoucer accent. Here is a short video about the accent incase you have no idea what it sounds like -

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OHfIAoF8gEc[/youtube]

I'm not as heavily accented as alot of people from there because my mother was from a different town and my father was always specific about us speaking correctly. I hate my accent, I think it sounds awful and I was worried about potential online partners thinking I was stupid and common because of my accent, never happened. Same with the area I lived in, it was a rough area and again I was worried that they would be put off by where I lived as it had a notorious reputation again I was wrong.

What general area are you in? I will try my best to find some kind of suitable club for you (I'm quite good at finding things).

I'm not from the US so I'm not really sure how that sounds like. But say you find a girl from your state... She'll have a deep southern accent, too... Right? So no problem in that department.



I understand this. But the more you obsess about it, the worse you're going to feel. Plus, this is why I suggested contacting people via messages and text chat first. Later, when they get to know you and are interested in you, you can mention you have a problem with verbal communication.

Many Aspies have this problem.

You cannot discern my feelings from an internet post.



You have yet to demonstrate that "most" women find those qualities unattractive.



Citation needed.



Citation needed.



You didn't describe the "basic natural instincts of sexual attraction."

First, if you're going to compare humans to animals, you'd do best by comparing them to our closest relatives. Secondly, If you do that, you should be accurate in how your portray their behavior.

And, yes, you can compare humans to "animals," but you cannot ignore that humans, like all other animals, have followed their own evolutionary path. Everything that is true for snails is not true for humans.



I do believe in evolution. It just doesn't have any relation to what you're talking about.