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15 Dec 2012, 8:25 pm

wtfid2 wrote:

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hale_bopp wrote:

Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.

wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!

I think what Hale is trying to say is that it's a choice to get upset by the rejection or not (rejection in general that is, not Brian's particular case).

Not all the guys who go through the same thing on dating sites get upset.

To be fair though, a lot of the guys who "don't get upset" when they get rejected are the ones who have at least had a little success in dating or getting a woman to like them.

Trust me, anybody who has never had success would get upset after a while, especially when they got to be a certain age. Anybody that wouldn't is either too positive or too proud, or both.

Ok then, maybe they do get upset but deal with it in a discrete manner. What do you propose is the appropriate way to deal with said upset though?

Dealing with it in an immature way (such as I see here all too often) just makes women reaffirm their choice in rejecting you as then they'll see you're immature.

you have to give a lot of guys here credit lol i think posting rants on an autistic forum instead of complaining in real life, or committing suice/homocide is rpetty discrete lol.

*Game show WRONG sound* The former turns the place into a cesspool for other users that know better (which is only about a handful of us) and the latter is just plain stupid and selfish.

Rejection isn't an excuse for anything. Period. But if you think it is have a happy dateless life.

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15 Dec 2012, 8:34 pm

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ive been hoping theyd get that by now. but nope.

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15 Dec 2012, 9:07 pm

I do not see anything wrong with her reply. At least she replied honestly. And she was not even rude.

I am probably going to sound like a huge a**hole, but I think you are overreacting.

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15 Dec 2012, 9:35 pm

MXH wrote:

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ive been hoping theyd get that by now. but nope.

The only solution is to stop helping and leave them for dead so to speak. Hopefully when they're 75 and still a virgin it might dawn on them.

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15 Dec 2012, 10:14 pm

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Hopefully when they're 75 and still a virgin it might dawn on them.

It'd be awesome to reach 75 without having sex with someone. Take that hormones and the ease of having sex!

(Seriously, sex wouldn't be the problem. That's easy. Go out to a bar, drink, and act like everyone else for the night. Or, just pay someone for it. The problem would be actual relationships and the difficulty involved in starting and maintaining them. The causes of this is are written in the textbooks. Relationships not equaling a sexual encounter at all. This is something that seems to get lost in regards to ASDs and the difficulties with peer relations.)

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15 Dec 2012, 10:15 pm

Dillogic wrote:

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Hopefully when they're 75 and still a virgin it might dawn on them.

Yes, it's what 'friends with benefits' is for!

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15 Dec 2012, 10:19 pm

blue_bean wrote:

MXH wrote:

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ive been hoping theyd get that by now. but nope.

The only solution is to stop helping and leave them for dead so to speak. Hopefully when they're 75 and still a virgin it might dawn on them.

That wont work. look at their posts. Its all about how they are in the right and the rest of the world is wrong. Every chance they get they toss it out because its not good enough for them. This is something they only can fix. All we can do is try and get them to not fill this place up with stupid posts

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15 Dec 2012, 11:46 pm

Dillogic wrote:

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Hopefully when they're 75 and still a virgin it might dawn on them.

sex isnt a problem for YOU. have some empathy bro.

and mxh needs to get off of his throne. Last i checked he was in his 20s and still a jobless virgin...although it's been a Little while since i last checked so maybe a miracle has occurred since then BRUH?

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16 Dec 2012, 6:44 am

blue_bean wrote:

MXH wrote:

blue_bean wrote:

ive been hoping theyd get that by now. but nope.

The only solution is to stop helping and leave them for dead so to speak. Hopefully when they're 75 and still a virgin it might dawn on them.

You ever heard the phrase "people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones?" It sure applies here.

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16 Dec 2012, 8:03 am

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Stop being a picky b***h with high standards, Boo!

Please blue_bean!! don't ever think of asking me out! Please! I don't want to make you suicidal!

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16 Dec 2012, 8:04 am

hale_bopp wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)

Any girl here wanna ask me out?

Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol

I read your mind.

Sorry nessa.

It's a NO!!

You can't even come close to my *walls*

Results:

Boo's ego: +1000 ego pts.

Nessa's ego: -10000 ego pts.

^ That what really happens in life.

lol

No hale bopp! I don't want to cyber with you!! I won't do a private bikini dance for you!

I reject aaalll your proporsals!

No is a no!!

Awww....come cry on my chest.

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16 Dec 2012, 8:07 am

nessa238 wrote:

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Stop being a picky b***h with high standards, Boo!

I'm loving the irony on this thread

In fact I'm amazed the women aren't all over Boo for his sense of humour alone!

Sense of humour is one of the things women claim to (or believe) care a lot about but they don't - it's not what determines attraction.

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16 Dec 2012, 8:30 am

DialAForAwesome wrote:

blue_bean wrote:

MXH wrote:

blue_bean wrote:

ive been hoping theyd get that by now. but nope.

The only solution is to stop helping and leave them for dead so to speak. Hopefully when they're 75 and still a virgin it might dawn on them.

You ever heard the phrase "people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones?" It sure applies here.

Since when have I whined on WP about this sort of stuff? And you did answer my question earlier; What is the best way to deal with upset about rejection other than posting inflammatory remarks towards nameless women online?

Everybody has tried to help these people in L&D and it gets thrown back in their face. Rinse and repeat whining and negativity about women. At this point why should people do anything other than walk away and leave them? Compassion and sympathy isn't infinite, I'm sorry.

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16 Dec 2012, 12:11 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

blue_bean wrote:

Stop being a picky b***h with high standards, Boo!

I'm loving the irony on this thread

In fact I'm amazed the women aren't all over Boo for his sense of humour alone!

Sense of humour is one of the things women claim to (or believe) care a lot about but they don't - it's not what determines attraction.

Not totally but it plays a major role

Average looking man with no sense of humour = I'm not interested

Average looking man with good sense of humour = I may well be interested

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16 Dec 2012, 1:55 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

blue_bean wrote:

Stop being a picky b***h with high standards, Boo!

I'm loving the irony on this thread

In fact I'm amazed the women aren't all over Boo for his sense of humour alone!

Sense of humour is one of the things women claim to (or believe) care a lot about but they don't - it's not what determines attraction.

It doesnt. But it certainly helps if the guy has one.

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16 Dec 2012, 9:05 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

nessa238 wrote:

blue_bean wrote:

Stop being a picky b***h with high standards, Boo!

I'm loving the irony on this thread

In fact I'm amazed the women aren't all over Boo for his sense of humour alone!

Sense of humour is one of the things women claim to (or believe) care a lot about but they don't - it's not what determines attraction.

It doesnt. But it certainly helps if the guy has one.

I don't know of anyone who does NOT have a sense of humor.

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