Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough

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Wow . . . you're gorgeous!

Your proportions are fine (eg. Jennifer Lopez). Stop worrying and enjoy.

You are very attractive.

I went here to say I was sorry if my older posts sounded a bit harsh.
I felt I was giving good advice but I probably could have been a little more tactful about it.

I still feel self-conscious about my nearly nonexistent breasts. When I was with my boyfriend last time, on Saturday, I didn't let him see or touch them (when I took my sports bra off because it hurt, I told him firmly "don't look!" and made sure his head was turned). I've taken to wearing baggy shirts too. I feel like if I wear tight shirts it's like, what am I trying to show off? It's almost laughable. You can see how thin I am in baggy shirts too.

@ShelbyGT500 I get self conscious off and on sometimes no matter who I'm with. It's always at the back of my head. I know I shouldn't take my self-consciousness out on my boyfriend but I don't like letting him see or touch me up there lately. This is the same man who, and granted it was out of stupidly thinking it would hurt the baby, told me once that if I got pregnant he wouldn't want to have sex with me but would if he had to to keep me happy. He is incredibly stupid and insensitive about the female body.

*blushes* Aww. Thank you.

Hmmm. Well, think about this: How many times have you seen a story about a girl who has anorexia? Very often, a girl like that looks in the mirror and sees a fat hog, rather than someone that is emaciated. The issues with anorexia are little complex, but among the factors are what they called cognitive distortions. It's not just what she sees physically, it's also how the image is processed in her mind. Are there particular circumstances or times when you feel very attractive? Are there places where you feel good about yourself? Are there any people who make you feel very comfortable about yourself? What I'm looking for are any coincidental factors that affect your self perception.

My family and friends make me feel good about mysrlf and usually my boyfriend does too. It's just sometimes he says really stupid s**t that gives me a complex for about a week and then I feel like he's made up for it enough. This has only happened twice counting this one though.

Are you up for reading a self-help book?

I actually read one in high school. It was excellent, called "Feeling Freakish?: How to be Comfortable in Your Own Skin." I remember the points from that sometimes. It was informative, helpful, and had witty illustrations. I think it may be a good idea to get that from the library again. Other than that, I think the best thing I can do is have a long talk with my boyfriend and ask him what he knows about the female body, pregnancy etc. and set him straight. That way if he says something insensitive again at least he won't have the cop-out of ignorance. I do know he has a friend who is extremely ignorant and cruel about women, I talked about that in an earlier thread. I'm afraid he listens to everything the guy says and sucks it up like it's Gospel. I feel like that's probably where his head is being filled with bullsh*t.

Everybody cares what people think of them. It's one thing to feel bad when someone is mean to you. It's another thing to feel deficient or like there is something wrong with you because someone else did something that was mean or thoughtless. Is there a way that your self-esteem can be enough without having someone else in the loop? That is, if you have a dozen boyfriends, then get married and have a husband, is there a way that you can independently maintain your self-esteem without having a dependence on another individual?

Yes, I can. My self esteem overall is fine, I know I'm not defined by looks. And if I hadn't had self esteem I wouldn't have been able to approach my boyfriend in the first place! I think it just bothers me that my boyfriend can be so ignorant, and I know he feels bad when he says something that hurts me because he doesn't know better. I love him to pieces and I think teaching him some stuff would help us both. I must say we have a happy, healthy relationship otherwise.

If you get the blues again, your Wrong Planet friends are here.

Thank you.

I got upset again earlier today because I saw a new line of breast cancer ads of topless women in body paint. I got upset because I knew he'd see one and think of how much better theirs were. I talked to my boyfriend about it and he got angry and claimed I stereotype him, then claimed my breasts are perfect to him and asked why I'm so worried about it. It's because I don't like them. Not because of society, because I think big breasts are good and small ones, on me are bad. I've seen girls my build with Ds and they don't look too big or saggy; they get perkier the lower the band size too. I'm just really upset about this all over again. I also read there is a technique to get them fixed called fat transfer - the most natural looking and feeling of any method. I could probably just use a little from my thighs and bottom, I'm so small in stature. It wouldn't need that much.

"Female humans"