Ann, not an autistic club, but there used to be many of us here. Since moving towards a posher image, they have slowly been squeezing us out. The place has changed so much, and not in a good way.
The staring thing. Maybe I can explain by telling you a story a young,single man shared of his own experience. He was laying out by the pool when someone from membership committee stopped by and introduced him to a young single woman. They both started talking, and hit it off. They had lunch together, shared a banana split from our ice cream shop, danced at the poolside party, hiked,played boccee ball, and had dinner together ALL THE WHILE TOTALLY NUDE.
When she had to leave, he walked her out to her car. They chatted as she got dressed. It was not until after she had her top on, and was leaning over for something that he caught himself sneaking a peek down her shirt and thinking "nice." He had not even noticed while she was nude. That's just how it is.