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The_Face_of_Boo
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06 Mar 2015, 3:01 pm

Can I see her picture?



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06 Mar 2015, 3:13 pm

Women can hit men but men can't hit women. If the man even lays a finger on his gf, then everyone's gonna be like bro you can't hit women you're an a**hole. But when the women abuses the man, its acceptable because he probably did something wrong to deserve it.



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06 Mar 2015, 3:50 pm

Anachron wrote:
It seems like some people are trying to discourage your caution but I wish I had used more in my life.

* Vandalizing my car in retaliation for something I did, then denying everything
-I think you would have to cheat on her or dump her to get this reaction.

Well, I will certainly need to dump her, when the abuse starts. But if dumping her will result her vandalizing my car, either on her own accord or after her friends egg her on to do it, what am I supposed to do? Stay in the abusive relationship?

Cheating will not be an issue, since not many women want a beta male.



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06 Mar 2015, 4:08 pm

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Cheating will not be an issue, since not many women want a beta male.


That would suggest that Beta males are very few in number, yet having all those alphas kind of defeat the purpose of being alpha. Unless there is a lot less heterosexual women than the evidence shows.

Your understanding of biology needs work.



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06 Mar 2015, 4:12 pm

darkphantomx1 wrote:
Women can hit men but men can't hit women. If the man even lays a finger on his gf, then everyone's gonna be like bro you can't hit women you're an as*hole. But when the women abuses the man, its acceptable because he probably did something wrong to deserve it.


This has no relevance to this discussion, but it is not ok for women to hit men. Assault is a reportable offense.



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06 Mar 2015, 6:33 pm

Oh no, so the nonexistent wife is hitting now too?

What a nasty nonexistent wife, she should be put in the Azkaban prison.



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06 Mar 2015, 6:48 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Oh no, so the nonexistent wife is hitting now too?

What a nasty nonexistent wife, she should be put in the Azkaban prison.

I'm expecting my future wife to have the decency to at least not do that, but I wouldn't be surprised if she abused me physically too. Sadly, due to the US court system that allows women to hit men, I have absolutely no ways to retaliate in this case. It's like showing too much weakness on your first day in prison (Azkaban or otherwise), and being, um... violated every day for the rest of your sentence. (The "violation" here is US-specific; I don't know about other countries' prisons.)

I suppose the real solution is to never show any kind of weakness in a relationship. But as a beta male and an aspie to boot, this is a very difficult task.



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06 Mar 2015, 6:52 pm

I know you're not listening to me:

But you are creating a (probably) false self-fulfilling prophecy.

There is no room for the hypothetical when predicting one's romantic future.

Or maybe you're pulling our chains a little bit.



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06 Mar 2015, 6:56 pm

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Or maybe you're pulling our chains a little bit.

... :scratch:



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07 Mar 2015, 4:03 am

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I'm expecting my future wife to have the decency to at least not do that, but I wouldn't be surprised if she abused me physically too. Sadly, due to the US court system that allows women to hit men, I have absolutely no ways to retaliate in this case. It's like showing too much weakness on your first day in prison (Azkaban or otherwise), and being, um... violated every day for the rest of your sentence. (The "violation" here is US-specific; I don't know about other countries' prisons.)


Please tell which state allows that to happen under what law. I'm not saying it doesn't, but I'm calling bs. for now unless you can provide concrete evidence. I think you are talking out of your arse, and I'd would wager you are not living in such a state.

Possibly sentencing, and evidential bar is high for everybody, and possibly there is some imbalance in the prosecution service before bringing a case, but I would like concrete evidence of that. This would be a institutional failure and a failure to carry out the law, rather than a problem with the law itself.

Most domestic violence cases don't make it to court sadly, they either scared to press charges or withdraw them, or they are scared to testify. This is a problem yes, but to say it is weighted in favour of women is mistaken.

There are historical laws that allow the husband to beat the wife, but I haven't heard of the counter. There are historical law that even allow a husband to rape his wife. I like to hope we have moved on from then.

I think when people make claims like this, and are not talking of personal experience they are diminishing the real victims of domestic violence, which is low blow.

Aspie1 you really need to get out of this persecution complex you have, it is not attractive or clever.



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07 Mar 2015, 4:11 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Or maybe you're pulling our chains a little bit.


Not for how long he has been around, as far as I can remember. Sadly these view are all to common. Bitterness and resentment, and even hatred.

I remember something he said about an albatross around his neck, which is from a nautical poem, at least that metaphor (he used it as a simile) showed some romanticism and intellect, even if it was entirely his own feeling. In the poem the burden is as result of the mariner's actions, I suppose that would rings true in a deceitful relationship.



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08 Mar 2015, 11:43 pm

0_equals_true wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
I'm expecting my future wife to have the decency to at least not do that, but I wouldn't be surprised if she abused me physically too. Sadly, due to the US court system that allows women to hit men, I have absolutely no ways to retaliate in this case. It's like showing too much weakness on your first day in prison (Azkaban or otherwise), and being, um... violated every day for the rest of your sentence. (The "violation" here is US-specific; I don't know about other countries' prisons.)


Please tell which state allows that to happen under what law. I'm not saying it doesn't, but I'm calling bs. for now unless you can provide concrete evidence. I think you are talking out of your arse, and I'd would wager you are not living in such a state.

Possibly sentencing, and evidential bar is high for everybody, and possibly there is some imbalance in the prosecution service before bringing a case, but I would like concrete evidence of that. This would be a institutional failure and a failure to carry out the law, rather than a problem with the law itself.

Most domestic violence cases don't make it to court sadly, they either scared to press charges or withdraw them, or they are scared to testify. This is a problem yes, but to say it is weighted in favour of women is mistaken.

There are historical laws that allow the husband to beat the wife, but I haven't heard of the counter. There are historical law that even allow a husband to rape his wife. I like to hope we have moved on from then.

I think when people make claims like this, and are not talking of personal experience they are diminishing the real victims of domestic violence, which is low blow.

Aspie1 you really need to get out of this persecution complex you have, it is not attractive or clever.


I can clear this up right now as someone who works domestic violence cases as apart of my job. ALL federal and state domestic violence laws (including those under the Violence Against Women Act) are equally applicable to male victim's of domestic violence at the hands of women abusers. I've worked with those kind of cases before. There are no gendered distinctions as a matter of civil rights law.

The OP's version of the United States is about as real as his wife.



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09 Mar 2015, 3:43 am

Aspie1 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Oh no, so the nonexistent wife is hitting now too?

What a nasty nonexistent wife, she should be put in the Azkaban prison.

I'm expecting my future wife to have the decency to at least not do that, but I wouldn't be surprised if she abused me physically too. Sadly, due to the US court system that allows women to hit men, I have absolutely no ways to retaliate in this case. It's like showing too much weakness on your first day in prison (Azkaban or otherwise), and being, um... violated every day for the rest of your sentence. (The "violation" here is US-specific; I don't know about other countries' prisons.)

I suppose the real solution is to never show any kind of weakness in a relationship. But as a beta male and an aspie to boot, this is a very difficult task.


Azkaban is Harry Potter's prison, the only thing that would violate you there is some form of giant squid.

I thought that a such evil fictional wife needs an equally fictional evil prison!



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09 Mar 2015, 9:18 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Oh no, so the nonexistent wife is hitting now too?

What a nasty nonexistent wife, she should be put in the Azkaban prison.

I'm expecting my future wife to have the decency to at least not do that, but I wouldn't be surprised if she abused me physically too. Sadly, due to the US court system that allows women to hit men, I have absolutely no ways to retaliate in this case. It's like showing too much weakness on your first day in prison (Azkaban or otherwise), and being, um... violated every day for the rest of your sentence. (The "violation" here is US-specific; I don't know about other countries' prisons.)

I suppose the real solution is to never show any kind of weakness in a relationship. But as a beta male and an aspie to boot, this is a very difficult task.


Azkaban is Harry Potter's prison, the only thing that would violate you there is some form of giant squid.

I thought that a such evil fictional wife needs an equally fictional evil prison!

Why not send her to the phantom zone instead?



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09 Mar 2015, 9:32 am

Geekonychus wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Aspie1 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Oh no, so the nonexistent wife is hitting now too?

What a nasty nonexistent wife, she should be put in the Azkaban prison.

I'm expecting my future wife to have the decency to at least not do that, but I wouldn't be surprised if she abused me physically too. Sadly, due to the US court system that allows women to hit men, I have absolutely no ways to retaliate in this case. It's like showing too much weakness on your first day in prison (Azkaban or otherwise), and being, um... violated every day for the rest of your sentence. (The "violation" here is US-specific; I don't know about other countries' prisons.)

I suppose the real solution is to never show any kind of weakness in a relationship. But as a beta male and an aspie to boot, this is a very difficult task.


Azkaban is Harry Potter's prison, the only thing that would violate you there is some form of giant squid.

I thought that a such evil fictional wife needs an equally fictional evil prison!

Why not send her to the phantom zone instead?


Too crowded by nonexistent evils already.



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09 Mar 2015, 9:33 am

The Hypothetical could really land you in real Hell!