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11 Nov 2015, 6:23 pm

Raleigh wrote:

Once I learned to love and accept myself, people became oddly attracted to me.
I've made more friends this year than I've ever had in my life.
Getting a diagnosis played a big part in that acceptance.
I thought, f**k it, I'll just be the most perfect imperfect me I can be.
So far, it's been working for me.
I'm getting invited everywhere.

THIS!

Recently I have been doing that and now I am socially active because of the attitudes and approaches I am enjoying now.

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11 Nov 2015, 7:24 pm

Hooray! See, when you love and respect yourself, you begin to love and respect other people, and then other people will love and respect you! It's brilliant!
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11 Nov 2015, 11:14 pm

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Some Aspies can, and others can't. I trust myself when it comes to social interactions.

I more or less go by vibes people and/or a social setting give off...it is not always 100% though. This also serves to make it impossible for most people to sneak up on me since I can already feel if they enter the space I am in without seeing or hearing them. My brother can, but he can mask his presence and any giving off of vibes....I think only people who can do that can sneak up on me.

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12 Nov 2015, 6:28 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo and Drawyer.

oh...man....it implies we're soulmates? :oops:

I've just removed my soul. :skull:

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12 Nov 2015, 7:08 am

Mermaid Man and Barnacle Boy

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12 Nov 2015, 7:56 am

Sweetleaf wrote:

Kuraudo777 wrote:

Some Aspies can, and others can't. I trust myself when it comes to social interactions.

I go by vibes but i make a lot of mistakes. I am absentminded (or ADD) or something and can be hypersensitive on one hand and totally oblivious to something else that is obvious to everyone but me. It can be frustrating. I have scripted a lot of stuff that i use when i can see that i am making mistakes in a social setting. If i am more comfortable then i go by vibes.

On the soul mate question--i think there are also a lot of "kindred spirits" in friendships too--all romantic stuff aside. They can be very rare for aspies but a once-in-a-lifetime gem when you find one.

I have one dear friend who refers to our friendship as "Anne and Diana" from L.M. Montgomery. I don't think i will ever find another friendship like hers in this lifetime.

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12 Nov 2015, 8:27 am

I assume soulmates can refer to both lovers and friends.

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12 Nov 2015, 8:36 am

Yep

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12 Nov 2015, 8:38 am

Katy and WP.

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12 Nov 2015, 8:41 am

It's worth noting that being married to someone does not make you soulmates. On the contrary...

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12 Nov 2015, 8:43 am

That's true. Many married couples are not soulmates. But many are.

I had a soulmate when I was younger. She killed herself long after we broke up.

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12 Nov 2015, 9:08 am

Married couples make love at first, then they get bored.

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12 Nov 2015, 9:11 am

That's true in at least some cases.

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12 Nov 2015, 9:14 am

That's why it's better to just be in a relationship than to be married. Once you get bored of your partner, you can dump them without losing your stuff.

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12 Nov 2015, 9:17 am

Let's all sit on a round table and summon soul-mates.

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12 Nov 2015, 9:17 am

Perhaps, in some ways, you're right.

But you have to be decent about dumping somebody. Don't be a jerk about it.

And remember: fair is fair. You'll be dumped, too.

If you really want to marry somebody, you'll know it.

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