Women asking guys out?

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Ok, enough of this profile, I am gonna delete it, and remake one with a plain looking and chubby girl. I am sure Ms. Smoke would approve it.

What about this one?



She is an Indian actress, but no one is gonna recognize her here.

What? what?? Why do I need to pay to 'prove my point'? Why do I need A-list? Why it should take a lot of time?

It costs 0, I create profile, I put photo, I keep profile empty, and I leave it then I check in the evening once a while - and that's it. It takes less than 10 minutes with a very minimal browsing bandwidth cost.

Don't try to escape the challenge with nonsense excuses.




I am introvert, so meaning I don't have a rich social life and most of my interests are indoor.




I don't buy prostitution, and I have a Girlfriend and she is not a prostitute like the women who sign up on your suggested dating site - thank you very much.

O surprised? You thought I am another poor 'desperate' single aspie, with no love or sex life, because it is so evident to your cognitive abilities, right?

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I send rubbish messages aka the hia my names how’s your day etc. I generally do like them and want to get to know them or hang out with them as yiu said.

I don’t think most people male or female read profiles, I’ve been messaged by women who clearly didn’t read my profile. I’ve been liked by lots of women who didn’t then when I message them they read it and reject me. I think we as aspies read people’s profiles We tend to be more logistical. I’ve since stopped reading women’s profiles unless I’m really digging their pictures, like if they seem playful in their pictures I’ll read their profile. It took too much time reading every single profile from start to finish just to be ignored and rejected by them.

What's you're point? Pro photography is every bit as available to men. A skilled photographer can make any guy look great with lighting, makeup, airbrushing, hairstyling and clever angles.



You just said you hardly get messaged at all..... like once every few months and you feel lucky to get even a simple hello. Well if you have a lousy, generic profile which telegraphs nothing but negativity, the vast majority of women are going to pass.



How are you going to know who or how many people messaged you if you aren't a subscriber to the site?

The point is that any user, no matter how attractive, is going to eventually stop getting messages the longer they've been on there. That has nothing to do with dating, it's just how the site works. 18 messages is quite a bit fewer than the 30 messages that came in on Day 1, and after a couple weeks that number would probably dwindle down to 9 messages, and it would continue to decrease. As I said, there's a window of opportunity and only for people who have great pictures.

Also, I don't think that anyone would agree with you that a starlet like Anushka Shetty is a "chubby, average woman." It's pretty obvious that you're deliberately using examples that will get the results which prove your point, which is pretty absurd.

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Easy, I wait until i gather 'likes' (ie. likes = messages) and i swipe them all to right.

Sure.

Whatever you are implying.... suck it.

And you quoted it partially,...the rest of the phrase was '....like the women who sign up in the dating site you suggested' (this whatsyourprice.com of yours).

That's how conversations start. I can send detailed messages only after I've already been chatting with them for a while and I've gotten to know them better. I need to build up a rapoir, even create some in-jokes between us.

It's the same as in real life. When you meet someone in real life, you start with hello. You don't introduce yourself to a stranger with a detailed monologue.

So expecting for a first message on a dating site is an unrealistic expectation.

Us guys read profiles and if the woman has unrealistic expectations for her future partner, we don't message them. Perhaps that could explain why some women get few messages on dating sites.

Unrealistic expectation? Not for me, or the people I send messages to. It exists and it works for me.

If you had 200 people say just "hey" to you each week, could you be bothered continuing the conversation with all of them? Or maybe just the ones who seemed genuinely interested? Putting substance in your message is a way to show genuine interest, so you are more likely to be one of the ones they bother with.

The numbers game is totally fine if you want to meet the sort of person who is down with that game. And there's plenty of people these days who are. OkC is now even promoting it. But for me, replying to "hey" messages from the top 7 cutest boys each week just doesn't get me the quality matches I'm after.

It makes one look like an illiterate idiot to merely say “hey.”

All 200? No. I'd pick my favourite ones. If 200 people sent me long and detailed messages I couldn't be bothered to respond to all of them either.

I've had girls introduce themselves to me with "hey" or "hi" and then we had deeper conversations afterwards.

How do you pick your favourites? Are you happy with the result? If so, great. But my way is fine too, for me. And others obviously or I'd be just sending myself messages and dating myself

If 200 women messaged me I'd pick my favourites by a combination of looks and common interest.

In truth I've never had that many to choose from at one time. Anyway who does is lucky. They can pick the crème de la crème to be their next partner.

^^ This is the NATURAL answer. This what I am talking about , yellowtamarin.


A short first message isn't the end of the world, except to you and to the very few women who are still sticking to the the long first message expectation thing.

I guess long messages made sense in the age of letter writing because it could be days or weeks before you receive a reply and you had to pay per letter, so you wanted to pack in as much information as possible.

But in the internet age you can get a reply instantly so that's why messaging can flow like a conversation.

In a conversation you don't talk for ten minutes and then wait as the other person talks for ten minutes, you take turns exchanging one or two sentences at a time. Instant messaging works the same way.

If someone sent me a message on a dating app that required scrolling to read, that would actually make me less likely to read it. If 200 hundred people sent me very long messages, I certainly wouldn't read them all. Who has time to read all that?

I'd prefer if 200 women just said "Hi" as a way of expressing interest so I could quickly glance through them all and narrow them down to a manageable number.

I don't think conversations start in real life with a completely random, context-free hello. Women don't engage with dudes who shout "hey" on the sidewalk. I personally find it creepy when I'm waiting for the bus and some rando rolls up on me and says "hi babe, what's your name?" From what I've noticed, meaningful interactions with strangers in a public space are more likely to occur when you can find something specific to ask or comment on. Like if you see someone reading a book that you love: "Oh my god, someone gave me that book for my birthday when I was in college and it was the best thing I'd ever read! What did you think of the ending to Part 1?"


It is true that in real life, you have extremely limited info about people you see out in the world, but the whole point of online dating profiles is to make it EASIER to connect with people. When people write stuff about themselves that you can see in advance, there is more that you can start a conversation about. Why wouldn't you want to take advantage of that? If you're pulling out the exact same moves online (in a virtual atmosphere where it is impossible to feel the other person's presence, mood, energy or chemistry) that you would in the flesh, why bother?

I don't think anyone expects a long, detailed monologue in an opening message on a dating app. In fact, that would be strange and overwhelming. Women just want to see something that shows that you are intrigued by her specifically, and have an authentic desire to get to know her better. Not just copy-pasting the same thing to every woman on the site who is halfway ok-looking. If you send out a generic message, it doesn't mean that you're a bad person but there's nothing that separates you from everyone else, so why should she respond?

The few times I ever felt inclined to go out with anyone on OKCupid were when the person reached out to me in a way that was thoughtful. This was what one guy initially wrote who I ended up hitting off with:

You strike me as someone who is constantly changing and evolving. Plus, exquisite taste in music. I dig. If you're into it, I'd love to know more about you.

When you show that you've taken the time to read their profile and actually form thoughts about it, people are much more likely to want to talk to you.