22 Jul 2020, 3:25 pm
cyberdad wrote:
The study doesn't specify the "gap" in looks. My understanding of the topic is that women are willing to compromise on looks but there is a point the "hot" girl won't cross.
Superficiality often "works both sides of the street".
It is the evolutionary process at work.
"Natural selection", based on a variety of factors, such as physical attractiveness, financial acumen/acuity, hierarchical status, are all part of the "Mating Game".
We didn't make the rules.
We just have to endure them if we are given a bad hand in life. <shrug>
Welcome to hell.
cyberdad wrote:
Money, status and power makes average looking men more attractive to any woman. Communication, empathy and rapport are also still important for long term relationships but all of this depends on mutual attraction points.
So this study is fairly one-dimensional.
So this study is fairly one-dimensional.
It is essentially "a Numbers Game" you can see if you have an analytical bent and have a tolerance for self-honesty.
Humanity is predominantly superficial when entering the game of mate selection.
Nothing to be proud of, but nothing to be ashamed of either.
We are all human,
With the exception of we Vulcans,
After all.
22 Jul 2020, 3:29 pm
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
:cry:
Sorry you're a fox. You must intimidate all of the ladies
OI!
Can I have some attention over on this side of "The Lonely Hearts Club", also?
Handsome skunks have a problem with intimidating the ladies, too, you know!
22 Jul 2020, 3:38 pm
Teach51 wrote:
This may not be a popular statement but I find that self-proclaimed "average" looking men who lament here that they can't get "hot" women is a glaringly, blatant, superficial double standard. 
Oh! Woe to us average run of the mill plain ladies! Who will take the trouble to uncover the beauty within the imperfect beast?
Oh! Woe to us average run of the mill plain ladies! Who will take the trouble to uncover the beauty within the imperfect beast?It is a well-known fact that the mindest of both genders have different priorities, as a result of the evolutionary processes.
Yes, males are more superficial when it comes to physical attraction, but you can hardly blame us for that.
It is, after all, embedded in our genetic coding.
Off course there are exceptions to the rules,
But these are the exception to the rules.
Look at it this way,
Back in our distant history as a species, it was more important to have food on the table than have a handsome stud in bed while you are slowly starving to death.
22 Jul 2020, 3:43 pm
Lilinoe wrote:
And everyone would be happier if we weren't obsessed with appearances and were instead at least a little interested about not being douchebags in love life...
"Douchbagedness" is on a spectrum.
I think if people are honest with themselves, pretty much everyone discriminates, to some degree.
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22 Jul 2020, 3:44 pm
Pepe wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
This may not be a popular statement but I find that self-proclaimed "average" looking men who lament here that they can't get "hot" women is a glaringly, blatant, superficial double standard. Oh! Woe to us average run of the mill plain ladies! Who will take the trouble to uncover the beauty within the imperfect beast?
Oh! Woe to us average run of the mill plain ladies! Who will take the trouble to uncover the beauty within the imperfect beast?It is a well-known fact that the mindest of both genders have different priorities, as a result of the evolutionary processes.
Yes, males are more superficial when it comes to physical attraction, but you can hardly blame us for that.
It is, after all, embedded in our genetic coding.
Off course there are exceptions to the rules,
But these are the exception to the rules.
Look at it this way,
Back in our distant history as a species, it was more important to have food on the table than have a handsome stud in bed while you are slowly starving to death.
^ Lies: There was no table.
22 Jul 2020, 3:55 pm
kraftiekortie wrote:
I am frequently more turned on to “average” women than “hot” women.
“Hot” women sometimes get on my nerves.
“Hot” women sometimes get on my nerves.
I know what you are saying.
Attractiveness is another form of *Power*.
It is often, but not always/universally, the case of "Power corrupts, and absolute power tends to corrupt absolutely."
Most attractive women often use their power to manipulate/maneuver themselves into a better social situation which has greater advantages in terms of comfort and provides stability in the potential mating scenario.
Logically speaking, where is the fault in this?
However,
Having power, and embracing, it can influence/affect a person's mindset into becoming more calculating, callus, dismissive, self-centred, etc.
I am not particularly impressed with the human psyche.
But, ones again, we are not to blame for a design spec we had no control over. <shrug>
22 Jul 2020, 3:57 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
This may not be a popular statement but I find that self-proclaimed "average" looking men who lament here that they can't get "hot" women is a glaringly, blatant, superficial double standard. Oh! Woe to us average run of the mill plain ladies! Who will take the trouble to uncover the beauty within the imperfect beast?
Oh! Woe to us average run of the mill plain ladies! Who will take the trouble to uncover the beauty within the imperfect beast?It is a well-known fact that the mindest of both genders have different priorities, as a result of the evolutionary processes.
Yes, males are more superficial when it comes to physical attraction, but you can hardly blame us for that.
It is, after all, embedded in our genetic coding.
Off course there are exceptions to the rules,
But these are the exception to the rules.
Look at it this way,
Back in our distant history as a species, it was more important to have food on the table than have a handsome stud in bed while you are slowly starving to death.
^ Lies: There was no table.
"There are only 4 lights!"
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22 Jul 2020, 5:04 pm
Pepe wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I am frequently more turned on to “average” women than “hot” women.
“Hot” women sometimes get on my nerves.
“Hot” women sometimes get on my nerves.
I know what you are saying.
Attractiveness is another form of *Power*.
It is often, but not always/universally, the case of "Power corrupts, and absolute power tends to corrupt absolutely."
Most attractive women often use their power to manipulate/maneuver themselves into a better social situation which has greater advantages in terms of comfort and provides stability in the potential mating scenario.
Logically speaking, where is the fault in this?
However,
Having power, and embracing, it can influence/affect a person's mindset into becoming more calculating, callus, dismissive, self-centred, etc.
I am not particularly impressed with the human psyche.
But, ones again, we are not to blame for a design spec we had no control over. <shrug>
But we are not humans, you are a smelly rodent.
While I am an ugly blob fish.
Humans’ evolution is none of our business.
22 Jul 2020, 10:25 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Pepe wrote:
kraftiekortie wrote:
I am frequently more turned on to “average” women than “hot” women.
“Hot” women sometimes get on my nerves.
“Hot” women sometimes get on my nerves.
I know what you are saying.
Attractiveness is another form of *Power*.
It is often, but not always/universally, the case of "Power corrupts, and absolute power tends to corrupt absolutely."
Most attractive women often use their power to manipulate/maneuver themselves into a better social situation which has greater advantages in terms of comfort and provides stability in the potential mating scenario.
Logically speaking, where is the fault in this?
However,
Having power, and embracing, it can influence/affect a person's mindset into becoming more calculating, callus, dismissive, self-centred, etc.
I am not particularly impressed with the human psyche.
But, ones again, we are not to blame for a design spec we had no control over. <shrug>
But we are not humans, you are a smelly rodent.
While I am an ugly blob fish.
Humans’ evolution is none of our business.
You have your fantasies,
And I have mine.
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23 Jul 2020, 6:33 pm
Pepe wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
:cry:
Sorry you're a fox. You must intimidate all of the ladies
OI!
Can I have some attention over on this side of "The Lonely Hearts Club", also?
Handsome skunks have a problem with intimidating the ladies, too, you know!
I thought you preferred the company of men?? The way you flirt with Fnord and Boo (okay Boo is pretty awesome, but still)
23 Jul 2020, 6:49 pm
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Pepe wrote:
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
sly279 wrote:
:cry:
Sorry you're a fox. You must intimidate all of the ladies
OI!
Can I have some attention over on this side of "The Lonely Hearts Club", also?
Handsome skunks have a problem with intimidating the ladies, too, you know!
I thought you preferred the company of men?? The way you flirt with Fnord and Boo (okay Boo is pretty awesome, but still)
Well, I know you are joking, but for the other's reading this, "Read my lips!"
I am 100% heterosexual.
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23 Jul 2020, 6:59 pm
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23 Jul 2020, 10:20 pm
auntblabby wrote:
love who you will, for the right reasons, and in the rare times when heaven dips its toe down into our world, that love will be returned with interest.
That's beautiful
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23 Jul 2020, 10:58 pm
^^^thank you 
we should strive for beauty whenever possible. 
24 Jul 2020, 12:05 am
Teach51 wrote:
Pure sex appeal with Raj. I like brown men and I have 3 brown children to prove it.
Are Israeli women very adventurous?
24 Jul 2020, 2:09 am
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
love who you will, for the right reasons, and in the rare times when heaven dips its toe down into our world, that love will be returned with interest.
That's beautiful
Ya think?
You didn't know "Heaven" has athlete's foot, did ya?
