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ToadOfSteel
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03 Jul 2009, 4:25 pm

Tea wrote:
And honestly, I'd trade my skill in language and music in a heartbeat to be normal...


I wouldn't to be normal, but I would for a woman who actually likes me for who I am...



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03 Jul 2009, 4:37 pm

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Trust me. When I tell them I'm trying, they tell me to be myself. Then when I am myself, they quickly begin to hate me. Also, apparently with most of my friends I'm not allowed to have confidence. They all tell me to be more confident. And then when I am, they stomp all over me and tell me I'm wrong or worthless, etc.. It's happened many many MANY times before. It got old fast, and now I've come to expect it. And even though I expect it, I still try to prevent it (A lot of good that does, if it keeps happening -.-; ).


I used to have problem myself, I was always told I needed to be more confident yet when I was I then always ended being accused of being arrogant and abrasive.

Most people only care about themselves, it sounds as if just to find those few special friends you meet in a lifetime to hang out with. Im sure you have plenty of your own qualities.


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03 Jul 2009, 10:49 pm

andriarose wrote:
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Tea wrote:
I've always wanted a nice body, so that I could make up for my annoying, clingy, quirky personality even just a little bit


^ I think this to myself constantly. If I make myself more physically attractive, then I won't have to try so hard...


It's really a catch-22 though... people can like your physical attributes alone and still consider you a freak. :(

It really hurts when a guy seems to be interested in me, and then I find out he hates everything but my body and proceeds to attempt to change everything about me ("...stop being weird, dress like all the other girls, hang out with normal people, grow your hair long, stop reading books, paint your nails, stop being smarter than me, find a female occupation..".). :roll:


I know how you feel about that. People are always asking me ("why don't you smile, why don't you get excited about anything, why don't you have a tan, why don't you get out more, etc, etc") One day, I finally said the heck with 'em, and stopped trying to please them.