Any tips for asking out or interacting with waitresses?

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I got trolled didn't I. DAMN IT!! !!

Trolled?

That would get annoying. Some guys think that when a waitress is friendly and smiling at them, that she is interested, and they have the green light to hit on her. A friend of mine used to try this...it never worked for him.

I had a boyfriend who use to flirt with waitresses right in front of me..

You never know, BUT, waitresses are notorious for being hard to get a date with. They are usually attractive, popular, and have a lot of guys to choose from. At least in bars. Denny's waitresses maybe not.

pfff, its not even your thread. if i could remember names better, i'd make sure to troll your next thread, but i dont, so i wont :]

both here and on this political forum i go to, people wave the troll-flag for nothing. buncha pansies!
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none of you guys have seen real trolling. where have you guys BEEN!? did nobody come around here, in the glory days of forum harassment, and turn entire pages upside down and stuff? 5-hours consecutive flooding? members w amputated limb photo-series in their signature? certain members who, for the life of them, replies to everything in a homophobic context?
"my dog is sick" "is it male? i wanna do your dog."
THATS trolling

Stressing the word "had."

I was naive at that time...go figure.

There were other red flags I didn't know about then...

I had some success with a waitress once. I went to a diner with my friend wearing my "Ghost Hunter" shirt, and since she was interested in that, she's the one that started the conversation, and every time she came back to my table we'd talk a little bit more. When I left, I left my phone number on a scrap of paper from my pocket and left it for her. She called me a couple days later... it didn't work out in the end since it turns out we didn't have much else in common.

So I'd say if a waitress seems to be the one flirting with YOU (excluding smiling and other job-related happy banter), then giving her your number might be worth a try, but it'd probably be a rare opportunity.

mabey it's my low self esteem but I don't think female bartenders waittress would be as nice to me as they are when a tip is involved.

No, it's not a self esteem thing. Regardless of that they're only as friendly as they are, because the customer is there to transact business.

However, that doesn't apply to the pub which is the most common pub where my group of Aspie friends socialises. Although there seems to be a new barmaid every fortnight, all of them without exception are very cold towards us, while interacting away merrily with other guys who must seem to them more manly and rugged.

When you get down to it, the waitress has to deal with demands all day. I doubt there's any way to know what it's like without actually being one yourself. But when you spend all day doing the same thing over and over, you enjoy something a little new/refreshing. I've had boring jobs before and getting to appreciate the attractiveness of other woman was about the only perk I had.

Spending most of the day getting hit on by customers can create a sense of discomort, after all, she can't possibly accept them all and she may have no intention of anything romantic (she might not have much free time). In this light, the guy most likely to get any positive response from her is the guy who makes her job easier (clears some table room when the meals are served for instance).

I would reccomend actually finding her somewhere else, I'm a guy and I have to say that starting a relationship through work is uncomfortable.