Who doesn't want to get married in the future?

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Marriage? Finding a girlfriend alone would be a miracle in itself. But nevertheless, I feel there is no chance I will get married. It would be easier to just not get married because if things don't work out, I could just leave with no strings attached (and I never want children either) so there wouldn't be anything left behind.

Marriage is the second biggest lie in the history of humanity.

I'm not religious, and I don't care about the legalities and financial benefits. People abuse marriage today, anyway (especially women who use it to get money and possessions). I'd be happy with an awesome sidekick to love and be creative with until we're finally collecting dust in a cabin in the woods as a couple of old hermits. No marriage license is going to enhance that experience, and lots of money would be saved by skipping out on a ridiculous ceremony with a bunch of people around that I don't want to talk to.

I think not wanting to get married is pretty much the norm for NT's now, at least for men.

There's lots of risks with marriage, particularly in an AS/NT marriage. On the other hand, there are some serious benefits. Also, from observation, if you don't find your soulmate past a certain age your chances really diminish. I mean, it's tough to date in your 20's having AS, but imagine what it will be like trying to date at 45 with AS.

The wedding ceremony itself is reason for me alone to not get married. One of the sucky things about being a woman is the pressures of having to go through with this, the parents who b*tch about having to pay for it. And the extremely likely chances of me going bridezilla.

No matter how much I would be against a ceremony, I know I would be forced or pressured by society to do so. So I say it's not worth it. I've gotten past the need for committed significant others as it is.

Hello, young, jaded one.

Firstly, in terms of relationships, it should be the near-constants that are the focus. Things such as beauty (ahem... "blonde hair") and youth will inevitably fade. Partners will inevitably change. It is the core being of a person that should make you "fall for her in the first place." Perhaps it is a lack of this realization that results in high divorce rates.

Secondly, I am first and foremost impressed by intellect. The most attractive man in the world could not impress me with status, designer clothing, or expensive cars if he did not earn them, and he did not have a brain. That would simply make him a mannequin or a statue to me, as far as I'm concerned--fantastic to look at, but not worth much else.

Lastly, as an NT woman (seriously involved in an Aspie, no less), I'm going to tell you to do some research. A quick Google would let you know that women aren't just interested in the "ones who play sports." I'll let you do the legwork for that if you're interested.

You're young, you've obviously been burned/shot down/frustrated, and you're simply confused. I completely understand the desire not to get married--which is actually quite common these days--but it just seems the decision is based upon false information and logic.

I don't wanna get married either (well,as of today) but I want kids so probably I'll be having an artificial insemination

Yeah, STDs are a problem, and I share that sentiment, given my paranoid thinking and my distrust in people, I would tend to avoid physical contact for that and other reasons, not that I'm getting attention though, which is fortunate, in a way.


well, given your age, I believe it would be better to concentrate on things such as studies and college rather than these issues which are pointless IMHO, I mean, you could dedicate your time to these more important things if that is your goal that is.


Probably not for a while, but you may change your mind a bit later, no matter how much time passes for that to take place, the issue is that one can never say never, I think it may be possible that a person who wether isn't able or don't want to be in a relationship or to get married, may endup getting married later in life, so you never know. What I'm saying is that one can never be so sure of how things could turn out in the future, although marriage isn't something that I support that much, but people get married anyway :p


Yeah, that's because we are idiots The biological part that we have related to sexual attraction, is what makes humans to not be 100% rational given that we share these animal instincts, maybe eugenics doesn't sound that bad after all, related to "Evolving beyond sex" (biological asexuality)

And, the exact appeal of having children seems quite interesting, more like an instintive survival/preservation thing rather than pure reason. And the earth is doomed to deal with humans as long as they keep reproducing. Damn it, people!

I don't want to at ALL, it will screw up my freedom, and marriage is s***.

It's 60% divorce rate in the U.S.

Besides feeling trapped, I wouldn't like it, if I got a divorce, and the other person got half of my crap, even though I had it before I met them...total BS.

I'm 31 and probably will never marry. I did have a boyfriend whom I dated for 3 years and had plans to marry, but that relationship ended in 2003. I haven't dated since and not really interested. I been hurt. I guess when I was younger I just couldn't stand to be alone and needed a boyfriend to feel better and feel more loved. I think for me it's best to be alone than be in a terrible marriage. But then again being married should mean happiness. You can do things with your spouse and then have a family like a normal person. Someone told me if I didn't get married by the time I'm 30, then I'll never marry.

I want to be married, but don't think I can wait until marriage for sex.

No desire to be tied to one person "forever;" it's not an option, regardless.

Yeah that's another thing ppl don't think about is divorce.

Both my sister and her guy decided not to get a divorce because of the expense and all the paper work involved not to mention the property they'd have to split. So now they're sort of living seperately. My sister works two jobs and is now having to live with my mom and all three of her kids while her "husband" gets to keep the apartment while his mom pays for his rent.

Another reason why you shouldn't have kids as well. I think divorce or breaking up really does do damage to kids. Both my neices are real distraught and think that their mommy and daddy will get back together if they're "good". It's a sad sight when I see them. It was also the same way with our mom and dad.

What's #1?

I have no plans to get married in the future. I'm not a religious person, so i don't see the point. Maybe if i meet a girl that really pushes the issue...i might do it to make her happy, but that's the only reason. It doesn't really matter to me.