Tired of not having any girls in my life at all

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I'm not exactly sure how my previous posts would render your advice unhelpful. As it is, it still is pretty helpful. Just not completely to me.

And I don't expect anyone to read/remember any prior posts I've made. From what I've seen it doesn't usually work that way on forums but I guess we're all a special bunch, now aren't we?


Unfortunately my NT friends are in the same situation. They don't get any girls themselves but they still talk about it like they're successful with their prospects(girls that might be interested in them). As such, they don't have much useful advice except to get drunk because everyone says it makes girls easier to get girls that way. And yet it still doesn't work for them.

The friends that I have that are successful can't really help me. It's just something that they take for granted. And they don't wanna hear about my problems with that. Some of them even ridicule me for not knowing that much about girls.

They aren't your friends. Real friends really care about your problems and don't judge you. I know it can be hard to find good friends, but it can be hard.

Don't be so quick to judge the friends' motives. High school can be a difficult time and the friends' reactions may be because they are confused themselves.

Good point Granite. I myself have difficulty on talking with friends when they talk about their problems. j5689, ignore my last post. Try finding older people who can help. I can always see that they are more mature. In College, you will find that your peers are more mature. I tell people that I have AS and find that one or two understand it. Those are the most helpful people. Please not that knowing what AS is and actually understanding it are two different things.

I find it extremely unlikely that anyone in my area understands it. One of the unhelpful friends said that this one really hot girl at our school used to teach people about AS, but I've only ever talked to her once and it was just to say hi.

To have someone like that in my life though would fill in two major holes that we've gone over. Maybe I should ask him to get me closer to her or something, I don't know. I understand that nothing relationship-wise would come out of it but being able to talk to a girl as hot as her and then to have her be able to understand me would be the best thing to happen to me in a while.

I'd cut out the middleman and go up to this lady and say,"I hear that you know something about AS, could you tell me more about what you know?"

You may not be able to shut her up if she thinks this is her area of expertise.

I think she knows who I am based on him talking to her about me. Still, I don't know that I could just walk up to her like that out of the blue.

Yes, you can.

I can't see one reason why not. Pick a time when she doesn't look busy or surrounded by others. She'd be pleased to talk to you.

That just doesn't feel right to me... randomly talking to someone out of the blue for no apparent reason, that is... if there is a reason (like I have to work on a group project with someone), I'll jump in real fast since that project just gave me some conversational material to work with. But out of the blue is just inherently dangerous and risky beyond the possible reward...

No, talking to her would not out of the blue. You have a genuine interest in learning more about what this lady knows. So that is reason enough. She might be an AS expert. She might have critical information that will be of use to you. She might be doing an important study on AS, in which case your insights will be helpful.

If that doesn't satisfy you I am asking you to find out what she knows about AS and report back here with the information. Tell her that Granite wishes to know. Blame your inquiry on me.

Yeah, and I have seen her walking by herself this year several times, but it's always in a direction non-conducive to where I have to go.

Her direction then becomes your direction.

And then I get caught in hall-sweep when I'm halfway across the building. Maybe it'd be worth it though, lol

I can't seriously follow through, I never do. There's never good results when I do risky stuff so why bother

So why bother?

Let's go back to the title of your post, "Tired of not having any girls in my life at all"

If you do nothing, you are guaranteed of not having any girls in your life, 100%. You will continue to be tired.

If you do something, you will have a woman in your life, even if it is for a few seconds. You will overcome your shyness. You will talk to a woman. You will learn something new.

No matter what happens it's a win.

So how can you tell us those aren't good results?

I would also like to share my life with a boy or girl, but it's hard finding one you enjoy being around, but I allways believe that life is going to get better.

Or she can be like any other girl and be like wtf is he doing talking to me and then I'll be even less likely to try it ever again. I don't personally know how she is. Might be better to wait till I'm out of high school, I hear people are generally nicer and more outgoing and less shallow and all that. I hope it's true.

And on a sidenote my friend said he might get his GF to let me squeeze one of her boobs. 0_o