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Although I agree, this is very vague. I wish someone would make a clear, step by step list of instructions.

In an ideal world that would be what this man can do. However, he has a bunch of other challenges at the moment. He has no time.

So, putting the fact the man is healing from a separation and has to find someone with specialized sensory and romantic needs, he would have to find a woman that would be able to appear at the drop of a hat when he finds he has a rare few hours free. Then she would have to be able to sit quietly while he talks about how unhappy he is with his current work schedule, maybe touch him the way he wants to be touched and be a model of emotional support. However, with his limited schedule and job-related stress I doubt he would be in a position to listen to any of his new woman's challenges, give her emotional support and provide physical sensations that she wants. He wouldn't have the time and energy to invest in understanding her needs.

When this man is working his intense schedule, the new lady love would have to be busy living her life completely unable to rely on this man for any type of emotional or physical support, or to help with the occasional heavy lifting or ride to the airport if needed. He won't be able to escort her to her cousin's wedding.

I don't know whether there is a farm somewhere where they breed these fantasy women, but I'm not so sure they exist. Well, they do exist but they have to be paid, and paid quite a bit for their services.

maybe a much older woman could meet your needs as a touch-buddy.
someone who has already been married, had kids, just wants to have some fun with a sweet young guy who doesn't ask too much of her?

Is ptown volunteering?

Heck, if you weren't half a world away I offer to come over and give you a good squeeze if you need one. I could use one myself.

Tempting, and I almost have enough free air miles to do it.

I'm a good listener, but time is a problem. Many people think they need 40+ hours per week together and I'm lucky to get 4 free. In many ways I fit into the executive social status (I'm in consulting, plus same drive and intelligence) but my lack of social awareness precludes me from that group because they are social masters. What to do, what to do...

I know about the time constraint as I have a toddler well toddling around me most of the time. And I have crappy household work and occasional studying and work, but mostly, I never have time for romance. And the fiancée's no better off. We're ships meeting in the night, occasionally hooting but mostly just passing each other by.

I think the touch-deprivation is getting to me because I dream a lot at night about, well, touching...

Nothing at all wrong with that. My mind never shuts down so the dreams I have are Night Terrors... dreams directed by Tim Burton when he's feeling dark.

This is very true.

there's certainly nothing wrong with it, I still blush.

but it's frustrating because I wake up feeling, well, unfulfilled if you get my drift.

I occasionally hang out , so most of the human contact I get is at my workplace, I get human touch by accident or by shaking hands or by the three_kisses_salutation which I hate (you should kiss three times in total on both cheek when you meet some friend/accquantiance that you didn't see for a while, regardless of gender except if she's veiled ), or from that coworker who likes to lean on my shoulder for some odd reason, I am not some bench and this is inappropriate at work! I try to find any excuse to get away from her when this happens because I don't want any confrontation there, the phone excuse thing usually works well.

Uh oh, sounds like a case of sexual harassment....

There is something to be said for the veil, especially if it could halt the 3 kisses.

quite simple. Using your excellent people skills meet a whole bunch of people and attempt a variety of romantic reltionships until you meet someone whom you connect with on an emotional/intellectual level whom also understands and reciprocates appropriately on a physical level to your needs. Simple!


As for the other comments. I addressed (flippantly I do apologise for) that I can't see how human touch is a need. I play basketball so posting up is physical touch. I sometimes have to shake peoples hands (though i do avoid it,) and I also (though not so much any more) took up swing dancing to acclimatise myself to overcoming my touch avoidance.

However I don't think the original poster was talking about touch in the sense of physical contact at the level of bumping into someone on the street or a crowded shop. I think they were talking about a physical caress pursued on purpose by two consenting adults. (and before anyone starts, I'm not talking about sex.) And if that were the case I can't see that being a physical needs as per my orignal post in this thread I would have died over a decade ago. I can only see it as being a "want." And wants can be tolerated in their absence.

As harsh as the may sound my thoughts would be for the OP to learn to live without it until his schedule allows. Unless of course seeing a masseuse will suffice.

"Excellent people skills"... you're joking, right? I meet possibly 2 women per year, and what I'm compatible with is probably 1/1000. That leaves me an estimated 500 years to meet someone. Another approach must be found... one of the things that AS frees us is from "hope" - that self delusion that allows people to ignore obvious facts.

Escort/Prostitute.

Basically you're turning to someone who is a professional to give you the exact thing you need. It may be pricey, but it will cover your needs.

a pathetic resort