Do you want to get married?

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God.no. It's a nice fantasy - the idea that someone will love you and care for you forever - but thats all it is. I would get bored with the same person, anyway.

Sounds like it to me. I take it you are both independent minded? (not in the "hey I'm an independent person" attention seeking dependent person).

I really don't get the whole fixation with marriage.

That's still leaves one family too many for me and her to deal with. I have a quite a limited range of possible partners as it is already, this would just narrow it even more, but it's something I could maybe look at.

We are both independent minded and don't need a full-time live-in partner. We both want someone in our lives but don't need one. Big difference between want and need.

I'd marry my hypothetical girlfriend if the legal/economic circumstances suited us better as a married couple. I would recommend that she does not change her name, that we wouldn't have a ceremony, and that we would have a prenupital agreement (if it is legal).

yeah sounds like me. Also, I think this whole being looked after or looking after can get out of hand.

Im with you on that, i gotta get myself established first then i would like to be married

I sometimes want to marry, but actually it can never happen, no one wants to be my partner at least yet, and I am also have poor abilities in connection to start a relationship, if there is a connection and it redounds to a marriage I think about the wedding, I hate weddings and parties I can’t handle it marriage means you will have new relations with your partner’s family and friends it will be a damn work , it can be very challenging for an aspie and him/her partner. it is better to say marriage is for NT’s world .

i think part of the appeal is the challenge it will bring, and the fact that the couple's love is strong enough to overcome the struggles. i mean, they are in it together, so it's like an adventure for them.

I guess it depends on one's view of what love is. Some might say that the love we all desire is highly idealistic. Others may see merit in the poetic power we associate with love.

I guess the question is: If you knew marriage would prove to be a challenge, more so than being single, would you willing to take it on?

For me at this point the answer is a definite 'NO'. But than again others may feel differently.

I am rather commitment-phillic. Nothing sounds better to me than promising to be with the one I love for the rest of our lives. Granted, marriage is just a legal institution and is not required for the above promise to be in effect. However, all things considered, I am greatly looking foward to being married again

Husband just sounds so much better than boyfriend or partner. Plus, the legal benefits are a bonus.

Maybe one day - definately no plans or no rush. I'd probably have to keep my name though either way because if I'm planning on getting things published in scientific journals it might be quite awkward if my name suddenly changed.

I will get married, I look forward to it. The tricky part is finding a reliable, responsible woman who could tolerate me for the next couple decades.

I'm 36, and there's not very much of my life left, so "'til death do us part" isn't that much of a commitment. As long as I remember that marriage is a contract between two responsible adults and I don't let a perfectly healthy lust get the better of me by driving me to marry someone I would have known better about if only I'd been able to think more clearly, how hard could marriage really be?

Do you want to get married?

No thanks (a honeymoon would be nice though)

I'd love to be married some day. But romantic love seems something inattainable for me. I'd be lucky to get a date.
...It's a nice dream when I can shut off the cold parts of my mind...

I have been married 3 times. Every marriage was a disaster, including the current one. In fact, out of all my relationships, the only happy ones were FWB arrangements with both partners free to do whatever with other people.

The most important aspect of any relationship is that both partners must want to be with one another. That's the only thing that matters. I do not need the government, church, family or any other azzhole to give their permission to be with one another or hold two people together by any means.

As a man, the way I look at the marriage is this:
Imagine going to bed with your girlfriend and suddenly finding Uncle Sam joining in. And, that Uncle Sam is one ugly homo... with the tool the size om Empire State building. The whole situation may not be good for my rear.