How old is 'too old'?

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Whose life is it, though - yours or your mom's?
I don't give a rat's arse what anyone thinks (or may have thought, over the years) of me or my choices in partners.

Erm...what does *that* mean?

Well, you can't take the people you are close to for granted. You typically have to make some sort of compromise with their views in order to maintain that closeness.

1. I don't, and never have.

b. Not unless they're also willing to compromise.

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If two people in a relationship are both adults than every one else has no right to have a problem with it regaurdless of the age diffrence. this should not even be a debate.

If x equals the age of consent, then >x is where you want to start.

After that, it becomes a game of finding similarities, common interests and enough challenges to keep the relationship interesting.

But of course, that changes everything.

Your statement is correct in that the decision of two legally consenting adults to date is no-ones business - this certainly isn't debatable.

However, for the individual(s) who are considering a romantic, long term relationship - it is a consideration. If someone in their mid 20's chooses to date (on a long term basis) someone in their mid forties to early fifties - they would be well served to at least consider the age difference and evaluate if they would still be okay when they are 40 something and their mate is in their sixties or seventies. If, after considering the possible problems with this intergenerational relationship, the couple still want to persue a relationship - that's fine. If someone considers potential problems and feels that the intergenerational relationship would not be for them - then this decision is fine too.

Many of us are meeting (or have met) our partners using on-line search companies (eharmony, match.com, lavalife, etc). The "age range" is one of the search criteria to narrow down the search for potential mates. The consideration of appropriate age ranges for individuals is something that deserves discussion.

I couldn't imagine dating anyone more than about 4 years older than me. I reckon I'd be ok with up to 4 years older and up to 4 years younger. Around that bracket.

Naw. Calendar age difference has very little to do with it, other than the perception and the judgment of the friends family and even strangers. Greater age difference is perceived in a negative light, and is often gossiped about and even made fun of. Us here in this forum care very little about that, yes?

I care about the physical age and the emotional age. Emotionally I'm very young. I don't think I could get along with someone who's gone through like three divorces and has raised a bunch of children. Physically I' m an athlete and I look younger than my age. That will likely continue well into my 50s.

I'd go out with Demi Moore in a heartbeat even though she's got 12 calendar years on me. She's very youthful.

I was only making reffrence to other peoples attatudes and not about compatability. Most 20 year olds would never even consider dating a 40 year old. What I was saying is that in the rare cases that it dose it is no one eless bussnes.

OMG, my GF is right below the youngest age I should be dating.

That doesn't matter to me though.

Her minimum age: Your_age*0 + 18

This actually makes more sense to me.

I've known older people to act more immature than people younger than them and vice versa so it always boggles me everytime a person generalize age with maturity level.

it's not age that worries me so much as the attitudes of people in various age groups.

Specifically, I do not want a man old enough to be my father because I do not want a man treating me like his kid.