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Lene
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15 Nov 2009, 6:00 pm

Aspie1 wrote:
hakemon wrote:
"Hey boy! Sorry I turned you down, I'm just not ready for anything serious right now, ya know? I'm livin life freely. I hope that doesn't change the fact we are friends. You're a fun friend!"

"Friend", 'nuff said. It looks like she friend-zoned you. Unless you enjoy spending time with her, start cutting back on how much time you spend fixing her things; be unavailable when she asks you. And focus your attention on women who are romantically interested in you.


Looks like it. Sorry mate. I've heard of girls having this done to them by guys, but not vice-versa, but I guess it does happen.

It's up to you now; if you want to be friends, or friends with benefits, then email her back, but if not, then forget her.

She did use you, or she used herself (to pay for your service)... I'm not sure which really, but it sounds a little messed up on her part.



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15 Nov 2009, 6:36 pm

Hmmm....I think this woman wants to make sure she didn't offend you when she turned you down - I'm assuming that's because she values your friendship and/or you as a booty call. At the very least, she valued you enough to try to soften the blow a bit.

I was thinking about what you said in an earlier post about being used by this girl. I don't agree with you there. If you're only going to be happy if you have sex within the context of a relationship, then you need to be clear about that with any potential partner before you have sex. I know it can be difficult to be certain about what any woman wants - really, I do - but before you get naked, I suggest saying something like, "Look, I really like you and I'm attracted to you, but I'm not interested in casual sex. I'd like to be with you, but only if you're interested in having a relationship with me."

If you do that, you'll make your intentions very clear. However, when you fail to make your intentions clear (as you did in your "tv repair" situation), then you can't blame the other person for not understanding your intentions. She didn't use you - neither of you made the effort to get on the same page before you slept together.