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18 Nov 2009, 12:21 am

hmm I wish I knew. I have the same problem.

All I can think of is bettering yourself to the point where you have the last laugh and they regret dumping you... or find something else so you don't care.

Those are the only things that seem to work for me... sooo hard!! ! >_<



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18 Nov 2009, 8:24 am

" after she made a point of modeling her new lingerie to me before she left. (subtle, no? juvenile, yes)"

She sound like she has a death wish. Like she is trying to provoke you into hurting her.



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18 Nov 2009, 10:25 am

Tom wrote:
" after she made a point of modeling her new lingerie to me before she left. (subtle, no? juvenile, yes)"

She sound like she has a death wish. Like she is trying to provoke you into hurting her.


Actually, there was no anger on my part whatsoever, just eye-rolling.

She did look spectacular, but that's it - I'm totally over her.

She just trying to grasp for the old power she had over me and failing...



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19 Nov 2009, 12:13 pm

We are going to have another go at making the relationship work. wish me luck :D



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19 Nov 2009, 1:25 pm

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We are going to have another go at making the relationship work. wish me luck :D


That's great news! Congratulations! :D



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19 Nov 2009, 2:58 pm

Grisha wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
We are going to have another go at making the relationship work. wish me luck :D


That's great news! Congratulations! :D


Thanks :sunny:

I hope the situation with your ex improves soon *big hugs*



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22 Nov 2009, 10:52 pm

i did the manwhoreish thing of just fooling around with other girls



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22 Nov 2009, 11:46 pm

My ex and her man just came through town a week ago. We're mad close still, I dated this girl for almost 4 years and she's one of my best friends, but I'd only seen her once since we broke up (like 3 years ago). It was sort of weird, but when the situation was in progress I was refreshingly surprised at my attitude. We ended up getting real drunk and just cooled it like it was day one.



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23 Nov 2009, 11:40 pm

Grisha wrote:

I have the interesting situation of having to babysit my children whenever my ex-wife goes out on a date.

Last Friday, she made a point of modeling her new lingerie to me before she left. (subtle, no? juvenile, yes)





Wow, I had a similar situation happen to me, only difference was it was my ex showing our mutual friend the ring he proposed to his now fiance(of just over 18 months) with right in front of me. I kept my head until I left and then my whole walk home I self-talked, half on the verge of tears, calling him every derogatory male-directed name in the book and when I told my mother about it she said that he'd done it just to get a reaction from me, so luckily I hadn't reacted in front of him. Though, I don't know, can an aspie really consciously lay out to do something like that with the intent to get a reaction?


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24 Nov 2009, 1:18 pm

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Wow, I had a similar situation happen to me, only difference was it was my ex showing our mutual friend the ring he proposed to his now fiance(of just over 18 months) with right in front of me. I kept my head until I left and then my whole walk home I self-talked, half on the verge of tears, calling him every derogatory male-directed name in the book and when I told my mother about it she said that he'd done it just to get a reaction from me, so luckily I hadn't reacted in front of him. Though, I don't know, can an aspie really consciously lay out to do something like that with the intent to get a reaction?


It's possible that he wasn't trying to provoke a reaction....just being an insensitive jag who didn't give a thought to how you might feel when he whipped out that ring. Or it's possible that he'd gotten some coaching from some other insensitive (NT) jag who told him it would hurt you if he whipped that ring out in front of you. Either way, sweetie, you're well rid of him. You deserve a grown-up - good luck.



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24 Nov 2009, 8:38 pm

HopeGrows wrote:
LostInBed wrote:
Wow, I had a similar situation happen to me, only difference was it was my ex showing our mutual friend the ring he proposed to his now fiance(of just over 18 months) with right in front of me. I kept my head until I left and then my whole walk home I self-talked, half on the verge of tears, calling him every derogatory male-directed name in the book and when I told my mother about it she said that he'd done it just to get a reaction from me, so luckily I hadn't reacted in front of him. Though, I don't know, can an aspie really consciously lay out to do something like that with the intent to get a reaction?


It's possible that he wasn't trying to provoke a reaction....just being an insensitive jag who didn't give a thought to how you might feel when he whipped out that ring. Or it's possible that he'd gotten some coaching from some other insensitive (NT) jag who told him it would hurt you if he whipped that ring out in front of you. Either way, sweetie, you're well rid of him. You deserve a grown-up - good luck.



thanks for the pep-talk.... *nervously tittering" uuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmm :shrug: :huh:


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25 Nov 2009, 12:56 am

LostInBed wrote:
thanks for the pep-talk.... *nervously tittering" uuuuuuuuhhhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmm :shrug: :huh:


Any time, kiddo....we all deserve a nice guy. :wink: