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18 Nov 2009, 11:05 pm

While the OP's remarks are a very gross overgeneralization, I have had that issue with someone about 2 years ago.

Attempts at a relationship had failed, despite having presented a few compromises. She had written me off due to the 100-mile distance between us--I asked her how she felt about visiting every weekend, which was doable, but to her, even that was insufficient. I was thinking "Ok, things are this way now, but maybe at another point in the future, another opportunity may present itself". This is the mindset I have about not only relationships, but economic and vacation opportunities as well.

She had no problem being friends, though. So the correspondence lasted another 8 months, until January 2009. Between August 2008 and January 2009, she had switched from open and friendly, to acting as if she had something to hide. Then in January 2009, she had cut contact. I had e-mailed her since then letting her know how school was going, etc., but they went unanswered. It wasn't until June 2009 that I got an explanation. She had found someone else, but I still was hoping to keep her as a friend, but it didn't work that way. Going by past experience, people who stayed friends after rejecting me romantically, stayed friends even after meeting a new partner. And the vast majority of them are still my friends, and have been friends with some of them for 15 years or more.

But this person was different. When she cut contact, I didn't know how to handle things, because up until then, it had not been the experience I was used to. I didn't know that silence meant she didn't want contact, . In fact, since she cut contact at the first of the year, and the e-mails she had sent me were during the day, I thought maybe the reason she had cut contact was because her employers had begun cracking down on using the Internet for personal use, since many business amend their personnel policies at the beginning of the year.


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18 Nov 2009, 11:13 pm

"evil?" Tsk.. I have an idea! Hey, KenM, let's dig up your old posts...... :roll: :twisted:
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Oh hah, the timeing!



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18 Nov 2009, 11:18 pm

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"evil?" Tsk.. I have an idea! Hey, KenM, let's dig up your old posts...... :roll: :twisted:
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Oh hah, the timeing. Just the person that needs to show up for this to get interesting.


Digging up old posts has become a real fad lately.

Even some really old ones have been dug up. I have been on WP for almost its whole existence.


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18 Nov 2009, 11:24 pm

I would like to see nice lengthy, detailed blogs from both of you about females. :thumleft: :thumleft: I can't possibly wait brief enough!



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18 Nov 2009, 11:28 pm

Tim_Tex wrote:
While the OP's remarks are a very gross overgeneralization, I have had that issue with someone about 2 years ago.

Attempts at a relationship had failed, despite having presented a few compromises. She had written me off due to the 100-mile distance between us--I asked her how she felt about visiting every weekend, which was doable, but to her, even that was insufficient. I was thinking "Ok, things are this way now, but maybe at another point in the future, another opportunity may present itself". This is the mindset I have about not only relationships, but economic and vacation opportunities as well.

She had no problem being friends, though. So the correspondence lasted another 8 months, until January 2009. Between August 2008 and January 2009, she had switched from open and friendly, to acting as if she had something to hide. Then in January 2009, she had cut contact. I had e-mailed her since then letting her know how school was going, etc., but they went unanswered. It wasn't until June 2009 that I got an explanation. She had found someone else, but I still was hoping to keep her as a friend, but it didn't work that way. Going by past experience, people who stayed friends after rejecting me romantically, stayed friends even after meeting a new partner. And the vast majority of them are still my friends, and have been friends with some of them for 15 years or more.

But this person was different. When she cut contact, I didn't know how to handle things, because up until then, it had not been the experience I was used to. I didn't know that silence meant she didn't want contact, . In fact, since she cut contact at the first of the year, and the e-mails she had sent me were during the day, I thought maybe the reason she had cut contact was because her employers had begun cracking down on using the Internet for personal use, since many business amend their personnel policies at the beginning of the year.


Yeah what she did to you seems extremely rude. Its like, Im good enough to be friends with while you're single, but im going to speak to you rudely when im not

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18 Nov 2009, 11:29 pm

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AND when we ask you "whats wrong" you reply with "nothing" but there is an obvious problem.


well I think in the case of NT women that's one of the ways they go about taking this emotional "upperhand" I've seen mentioned.

Now as pertaining to mysef specifically, as I don't know if this is part of the reason other Aspergian/ASD women do it, emotional processing is something that I have difficulty with and as such, regardless of whether it's a partner, friend or relative/family member asking me what's wrong I tend to close up and "bury" my head "in the sand" so to speak, because expressing my feelings isn't the easiest to do and I also live very strongly be the societal stereotype that crying oe showing your emotions is a sign of weakness.


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18 Nov 2009, 11:30 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

Yeah what she did to you seems extremely rude. Its like, Im good enough to be friends with while you're single, but im going to speak to you rudely when im not

W..T...F?


To my understanding, I think she cut contact with probably all her opposite-sex friends as well.


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18 Nov 2009, 11:44 pm

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It's easy to fall into this sort of sexism when you feel rejected by women. It's generalization, but there are certainly women, and probably men though I've never met one, who play these sorts of mind games. But even if there is some basis in truth, it's no better than claiming all aspie guys are creeps, even though sadly some of us are seen that way.


lol.

"Some basis on truth"

It's the unsaid truths that bother me. Ken M is completely blind to the fact of what scumbags men can be. I'm sick of him posting this sort of one sided, generalised, sexist sh**.

Yeah women can be awful, so can men. Anyone with half a brain knows this.



Aren't you one of the mods here? I see your name in green.
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18 Nov 2009, 11:56 pm

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1. Why do you think its acceptable to lie to guys? Saying you want to be friends when you really want nothing to do with them?


That has already been answered here a few times. Why ask again? Did you forget?


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2. Why do women like to continue to lie to guys even when we tell you straight up please don't lie?


Also been answered. Man you have a poor memory.


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Do you women get some kind of power trip screwing with guys? Why do you always like to cause men stress and heartache?


I like driving jerks crazy but nice men I leave alone. Perhaps these women like doing this to you for the same reason. Acting this way keeps enabling them to do it. They can read body language. You gotta love that super power.


Now for my question: Why do you men go out and try and have sex with women you hardly know? Why do you men take out a pretty hot lady just so you can have sex and when she doesn't have it, you never take her out again, why do you men do this? Why do you men go online and ask women to show you their tits or private parts or masturbate to their webcam so you can get off? Why are you men such pigs? God no wonder women can't respect men and no wonder they lie. You guys deserve no respect. It's all you mens fault we have to be this way. So we turned it all into a game by screwing with you guys.


Okay, we're even now. :D



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19 Nov 2009, 12:00 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
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It's easy to fall into this sort of sexism when you feel rejected by women. It's generalization, but there are certainly women, and probably men though I've never met one, who play these sorts of mind games. But even if there is some basis in truth, it's no better than claiming all aspie guys are creeps, even though sadly some of us are seen that way.


lol.

"Some basis on truth"

It's the unsaid truths that bother me. Ken M is completely blind to the fact of what scumbags men can be. I'm sick of him posting this sort of one sided, generalised, sexist sh**.

Yeah women can be awful, so can men. Anyone with half a brain knows this.



Aren't you one of the mods here? I see your name in green.
Do you have the power to lock this thread?


Nah.
Alex really needs to sort out his mod labelling system if you ask me. It took me forever to find out who the current mods are.



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19 Nov 2009, 12:42 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:
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1. Why do you think its acceptable to lie to guys? Saying you want to be friends when you really want nothing to do with them?


That has already been answered here a few times. Why ask again? Did you forget?


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2. Why do women like to continue to lie to guys even when we tell you straight up please don't lie?


Also been answered. Man you have a poor memory.


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Do you women get some kind of power trip screwing with guys? Why do you always like to cause men stress and heartache?


I like driving jerks crazy but nice men I leave alone. Perhaps these women like doing this to you for the same reason. Acting this way keeps enabling them to do it. They can read body language. You gotta love that super power.


Now for my question: Why do you men go out and try and have sex with women you hardly know? Why do you men take out a pretty hot lady just so you can have sex and when she doesn't have it, you never take her out again, why do you men do this? Why do you men go online and ask women to show you their tits or private parts or masturbate to their webcam so you can get off? Why are you men such pigs? God no wonder women can't respect men and no wonder they lie. You guys deserve no respect. It's all you mens fault we have to be this way. So we turned it all into a game by screwing with you guys.


Okay, we're even now. :D

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How can a guy keep a woman happy?
I know the hand kissing thing isn't conventional these days but I'm testing it out by just imagining doing it when I meet my female friends. So, hopefully I send body language that makes them happy.



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19 Nov 2009, 2:02 am

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Its is womens fault for all the misunderstanding between men and women. No wonder some guys like to shot up places where women are. Rejected all there life, lied too. No wonder people do these things. I am not saying its right but I understand.

Do you women get some kind of power trip screwing with guys? Why do you always like to cause men stress and heartache?


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19 Nov 2009, 2:06 am

Never heard that song before. However, I can't get "Schizophrenic Psycho" out of my head (wasn't that a PoM song?)


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19 Nov 2009, 2:10 am

I never heard that one Tim, I'll try looking it up.
Edit: You are correct that is a puddle of mud song.

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19 Nov 2009, 2:52 am

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Now for my question: Why do you men go out and try and have sex with women you hardly know? Why do you men take out a pretty hot lady just so you can have sex and when she doesn't have it, you never take her out again, why do you men do this? Why do you men go online and ask women to show you their tits or private parts or masturbate to their webcam so you can get off? Why are you men such pigs? God no wonder women can't respect men and no wonder they lie. You guys deserve no respect. It's all you mens fault we have to be this way. So we turned it all into a game by screwing with you guys.


Except not all of us do that. I for one would be rather mortified at the prospect of having sex with a woman I hardly know... And I don't take kindly to being called a pig.

And no, I don't generalize people myself (or I at least try my hardest not to, and usually apologize if I screw up in that respect). On the other hand, I do take personal offense to general statements that just happen to include me, so... yeah.



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19 Nov 2009, 3:44 am

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Spokane_Girl wrote:
Now for my question: Why do you men go out and try and have sex with women you hardly know? Why do you men take out a pretty hot lady just so you can have sex and when she doesn't have it, you never take her out again, why do you men do this? Why do you men go online and ask women to show you their tits or private parts or masturbate to their webcam so you can get off? Why are you men such pigs? God no wonder women can't respect men and no wonder they lie. You guys deserve no respect. It's all you mens fault we have to be this way. So we turned it all into a game by screwing with you guys.


Except not all of us do that. I for one would be rather mortified at the prospect of having sex with a woman I hardly know... And I don't take kindly to being called a pig.

And no, I don't generalize people myself (or I at least try my hardest not to, and usually apologize if I screw up in that respect). On the other hand, I do take personal offense to general statements that just happen to include me, so... yeah.
SG is taking the piss by throwing similar charges back at KenM. I don't believe that is directed at you or most men.