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Good points, Hope. Btw, if that's you in your avatar, you're very attractive.

The thing is, I really sincerely click better with older women. While I have some maturity issues as far as being new to the social game, not driving, not being able to work or handle stress (and part of that is the aspergers, part of it is just reluctance to play the game of life on my part) I've been talking to a 55 year old woman on the phone. We both know we aren't going to be a couple, but our conversations have went seamlesly for 40 minutes, 25 minutes, and 40 minutes, and we really click.

The relationship I was in, we had nothing in common other than a little beginning chemistry that quickly faded, and I was feeling that pain over nothing...over just an ego problem of getting dumped and wanting to prove to her that she made the wrong decision.

Also, while I do care about looks (for example I prefer brunettes and redheads) you're right that I'm not giving some women a chance based on "Oh I don't want to get hurt by someone I don't even like that much."

I think in the meantime (and someone in particular, in a worse position than me on here who I've been told not to identify by his username should do the same) should just focus on my life, and if I need romance/physical contact/sex, I can get that from the older women without the drama.

A lot of that stuff I said, I was just blowing off steam earlier. I really wouldn't want to date a perfect model like Keeley Hazel. I'm not a perfect model myself, and I'm low-key and would get insecure over the attention she got. I also wouldn't be able to handle her high-maintenance behavior and tastes.

Actually, it is me in my avatar and thank you for the compliment....I really appreciate hearing that today. (I guess coming from you - with your high standards - that really is quite a compliment. )

I think that if you're interested in an "older friends with benefits" arrangement, you should be excruciatingly clear with the woman (women) involved. Also, you should always use a condom, even if a woman is post-menopausal (fasting growing segment of the population getting infected with HPV is women over 50 years of age).

I'm picky too, so I think I kind of understand this.

Jessica Rabbit and any other model out there will age eventually, and won't look the same.


Every person has something good about them. Look for attractive things about the women around you. I'm not saying you'll never date a model, but you shouldn't wait for that to happen. See people as they could be, not as they are. You may find that you have made someone's day!