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TheMinnesotaIceman
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14 Dec 2009, 10:57 pm

I'm currently dating an NT girl. Our first date was last Saturday, and we plan on meeting again this weekend. I don't think she knows about AS, but she knows I'm unemployed and unable to drive, and she doesn't judge me. I really like her a lot, and hope she and I can have a serious relationship, when she's ready for one.



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14 Dec 2009, 11:05 pm

MinnesotaIceman....be patient, and try to be her guide to information about your Aspieness. Be open about any behaviors related to your AS - you'll be giving her the tools she needs to understand you and your relationship better. Congrats and good luck.



Spokane_Girl

15 Dec 2009, 2:25 am

MartyMoose wrote:
Spokane_Girl wrote:
MartyMoose wrote:
makuranososhi wrote:
poker_face wrote:
Who on this forum has dated NTs?

I have but feel that we didn't click and feel that my condition was a hindrance I am only mildly autistic (I get all types of humour and can come across as an NT). However I think I put NTs off due to my lack of facial expression. So for those who have dated NTs what do you think were the obstacles that occured in the relationship?


Dated, yes... and my wife isn't on the spectrum, though I would not refer to her as being NT, either. Biggest obstacles I faced? My need for routines, and the difference between our respective rates of change. If I look back, I would say that in most cases my partners changed about as much in six months as I typically change in four years (interests, social groups, appearance)... makes it hard to evolve together as a pair. Why did I get married? My wife and I have known each other for almost a decade and continue to grow closer together and can find multiple ways to talk/communicate when we're struggling. I have confidence that despite the difference we can continue to share and find that common ground.


M.

because of your picture everytime I read your posts I picture Alan Rickman talking



Do you picture Lori Petty or her character Kit talking when I post?

I don't know who that is but I picture you looking like the person in the picture




I'm Kit yay.



Spokane_Girl

15 Dec 2009, 2:28 am

MartyMoose wrote:
amazon_television wrote:
The better question is does he picture drunk ass Jimmy Dugan when he responds to you... I know I do :lol:
who is that?



Tom Hanks in A League of Their Own. He played Jimmy Dugan.



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16 Dec 2009, 8:42 pm

ive dated NTs, longest was for 3 years, id say that biggest problems were that i kept alot of stuff to myself, she got annoyed by the way i worded things and thought that i was trying to sound smarter than her, when really that's just how i talk (mind you this is before i found out i had asperger's, i didn't even know what it was, i was misdiagnosed with ADD for the whole educational life pretty much). i always got pissed off at the radio, and all she likes is popular music so that caused a problem (i hate commercialized music with a passion and get really irritated when i am around it, so i tend to rip on it). she also thought that when i was criticizing stuff like the radio or reality shows i was criticizing her so that always erupted into a fight, although i never intended for an argument. also she just got turned off by weird random stuff i do.

that sums it up more or less i think