25 Jan 2010, 12:47 pm
Merle wrote:
Women generally decide whether to date a guy (or not) in the first couple of dates.
They decide to date during the first dates? That makes no sense...
Anyway, to score a date with a woman she must already be somewhat interested and I personally find it much harder to actually get a date than than to do the dating itself. Once I actually get a date, I rarely ruin it.
Merle wrote:
IMO, men who focus on the "date" portion are too willing to settle. They're too convinced that they're the one, and that if women would just see them for who they are, they'd be convinced they'd met the perfect guy. They're also willing to compromise and only show a limited view into their interests in hopes of not scaring the woman away. If you are able to line up a date every day, you're not one of these guys, it's okay if you focus on the date portion then.
As I said : the dating part comes fairly easy to me. It's the "getting a date" part that troubles me.
MissConstrue wrote:
Why do men have to be so irrational about women? 
The more "girly" a woman, the more illogical and superficial her behavior tends to be. It's a pattern I've seen throughout my life.
In what way am I irrational? I think you're confusing rationality with intuition (which is the oposite of rationality).
25 Jan 2010, 1:57 pm
Salonfilosoof wrote:
Merle wrote:
Women generally decide whether to date a guy (or not) in the first couple of dates.
They decide to date during the first dates? That makes no sense...
Anyway, to score a date with a woman she must already be somewhat interested and I personally find it much harder to actually get a date than than to do the dating itself. Once I actually get a date, I rarely ruin it.
Merle wrote:
IMO, men who focus on the "date" portion are too willing to settle. They're too convinced that they're the one, and that if women would just see them for who they are, they'd be convinced they'd met the perfect guy. They're also willing to compromise and only show a limited view into their interests in hopes of not scaring the woman away. If you are able to line up a date every day, you're not one of these guys, it's okay if you focus on the date portion then.
As I said : the dating part comes fairly easy to me. It's the "getting a date" part that troubles me.
MissConstrue wrote:
Why do men have to be so irrational about women?
The more "girly" a woman, the more illogical and superficial her behavior tends to be. It's a pattern I've seen throughout my life.
It's not true and it's a huge sweeping judgment.
I am very feminine, and I am also smart and analytical. Lots of chicks are like me. I'm pathologically logical, albeit quirky. My cousin teaches biology at a major university and she's the same way. You're meeting the wrong women if this is your perception. Femininity exists separately from rationality or logic. Women are still women - they aren't men. But if you are making the argument you cannot find a logical girl that is feminine, you need to look in a different place.
I suppose an argument can be made for superficiality tied to girlishness, but that speaks to how you are categorizing "feminine." There's a natural femininity that isn't about mile-high blonde shellacked hair and 1/2" of make up (not that there's anything wrong with that!). Just like there is an understanding of masculinity that isn't about sports and muscle building.
25 Jan 2010, 2:53 pm
BetsyRath wrote:
I am very feminine, and I am also smart and analytical. Lots of chicks are like me. I'm pathologically logical, albeit quirky. My cousin teaches biology at a major university and she's the same way. You're meeting the wrong women if this is your perception.
Maybe I am. Or maybe women like you are so rare they're rarely ever straight and single
BetsyRath wrote:
I suppose an argument can be made for superficiality tied to girlishness, but that speaks to how you are categorizing "feminine." There's a natural femininity that isn't about mile-high blonde shellacked hair and 1/2" of make up (not that there's anything wrong with that!). Just like there is an understanding of masculinity that isn't about sports and muscle building.
True. However, I see a correlation between feminine grace, irrational behavior and what's considered typical feminine interests (like fashion or gossip magazines). The more significantly you see either in a woman, usually the more significantly you'll also see the other two. Of course one cannot generalise, but this is a tendency I see.
