3 years with my GF and still i havnt kissed her

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its very natural to be having sex kissing girls at 15. it might not be accespted by some in modern day socieity but it sure is natural.

There's 2 ways to go about this.

Option 1: Tell your girlfriend you want her to kiss you - on the lips. Then you shut your eyes - so the visual doesn't panic you - and she can do the work. Then as it is happening you will realise it's perfectly normal and you'll like it and you'll start doing the share of the work.

Option 2: Tell your girlfriend you want to kiss her. Get her to shut her eyes. You shut your eyes. Count in greek letters - Alpha Beta Gamma Delta etc to take your mind off it. Move in slowly and you want hit her - if you hold her face gently with your hands you won't hit her. You will know when you're close. Then just presses your lips against hers - and do whatever feels right. Immediately afterwards, before you have a chance to think about it, tell her to kiss you back.

Then you'll be on your way. Just take your brain out of the equation and let your body do the work.

Ive talkied with her many times about me not kissing her i really should have mentioned that before and no she dosent have aspergers i do but she dosent and i talked with her about it and her response was that she has been really busy lately and hasnt really had time for all this stuff.....but we have been dating for erm 3 years now thats along time to be busy and of course i know this is all my fault really i mean the guy makes the first move and aparrantly its easiy to spot and well i cant and so here i am and not being able to spot it either makes me a blind person or someone who really is struggleing with this and i am so i guess all the "grow some balls" comments is what i exspect really anyway thanks this is actually a good opetunity to see if i can make a world record ..... Longest time dating without actually kissing!

Well thanks for the comments keep posting if you like its fun to read them and ill take all advice i get

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I've been on this site for a few months now and enjoy the hell out of it, especially the love and dating forum. It seems, however, I can't go on any thread without Toad interjecting "I'm unlovable. I'm destined to spend the rest of my days alone." Everyone, including myself, vents on here from time to time, but 100 percent of Toad's posts are negative and self-defeating. I feel bad that he's chosen not to get the help he needs, but he's wasting our time, and his time, and ruining an otherwise great board, by complaining non-stop.

The moderators have said there's nothing they can do because venting isn't against the rules.

ToadOfSteel's posts discourage me...

...from being all negative all of the time, like him. I laugh, when I think about it.

I dunno about relationships, so I cannot see what's wrong with that picture. It must be a good one for it to last 3 years (especially between a young aspie boy and a young NT girl), that's for sure. It's still a mystery to me as to how an aspie boy can get a girl. But I don't think kissing would gross me out unless the girl had stinky breath. Heh heh.

when i am with girls i like, we may cuddle closely in the dark, and i may caress her head.
i may then kiss her forehead with much love (i would not bother with a stranger) . if she looks up at me i may kiss her face gently and then she may offer her lips to be kissed.

i would never "stick a tongue in" ever. that is only something that extremely sexually excited people do. i would kiss one of her lips....either the top one or bottom one, and i would then relax and go to sleep. it is very likely that she will return the kiss with her love and it is good to feel.
it does not have to be like snails all curling around each other when they are mating (yucky froth and slime etc).

i have to go or i may get banned because i have no idea if i am being inappropriate.

Which might actually be an option when I actually have money...

Do you have insurance or on disability?

I know i get to mooch off my parents insurance while I'm still in college (which will only be until about december of this year or so)... other than that, I better hope I land a good job with good benefits straight out of college...

Here in the UK a lot of people are graduating from University with few job prospects (at least in their respective fields). Even the shops and supermarkets are hiring managers but not till boys. I worked for one supermarket for nearly 2 years, and when I asked about a Christmas temp job (4 years later) they said, "Sorry, but there's a lot of people returning from their University holidays who've worked here before. We're only hiring long-term."

If the USA situation is anything like ours, don't rely on a good job straight out of college. Competition for any job is high at the moment. My last job had 150 applicants and only 20 places. I was lucky, and that was for working in a bookshop at minimum wage. You may have to take the jobs you can get rather than the ones you want. That's just how it is at the moment (at least in the UK).