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All the people who say they arn't that bothered by looks would change there mind if the other person had lepresy. Unless there jesus

interesting point. The second half is just creepy!

Well laz she wasn't horrible looking, but she wasn't drop dead gorgeous either.

Somewhat important, I don't like extremely skinny women or a woman who doesn't take care of herself. I don't like a lot of makeup and a woman smoking is a definite turnoff. Nothing killed my interest in a woman faster then a cigarette dangling from her lips.

So no bony or smoking women, that leaves out supermodels!

Peace

Laz wrote: All the people who say they arn't that bothered by looks would change there mind if the other person had lepresy. Unless there jesus

or blind.

Or me. (I mean, come on! Have you ever seen that guy from The Cars?!)

You are correct, I am not bothered by looks, or lepresy.

Although I am an atheist I believe that you may be misrepresenting the type of relationship Jesus is thought to have had with any leper??

I'll just say that if I feel a 'spark' or a 'chemistry' with someone, that's strong, and will override any consideration I have about looks any day.

Yes cos this is so much more important.

Somewhat important...see, for me, someone's appearance seems to improve if I like their personality. If I start to dislike their personality, then no matter how hot they're supposed to be, I find them increasingly hideous.

Another thing is that everyone has a different perception of beauty. A lot of people think Jessica Alba, J-Lo, Jennifer Garner, etc. are hot. I don't--I dislike them. I think Monica Bellucci, Kate Beckinsale (well, at least in "Underworld" and "Van Helsing"--not out of character), and Kate Winslet are, though, so I dunno.

While I definitely value chemistry over looks as well, I'd be a hypocrite if I denied that in my years of experience I haven't learned to associate the kind of personality I'm attracted to with a certain physical appearance. I love strong, intense, emotional women with a wild sense of humour and individuality to burn; while it's hard to pinpoint that to a particular appearance right here and now, I know that when I see someone from afar whose looks project all that, I'm hooked before she even knows that I exist. I've been told more than once that my I've got weird taste in this regard but I'm just not attracted to thin, young women who dress, groom and act exactly the same as everyone else, no matter how naturally beautiful they are.

So I may not go for what 99% of guys think is attractive...but I still can't say that I'm totally unconcerned with looks.

I am a very visual person, while I have dated people who weren't "traditionally" attractive, for the most part everyone I have ever dated has been extremely attractive. (a few have been downright gorgeous) I don't mean to be shallow about it, but if I am not attracted to someone, I'm not going to be, people don't "grow" on me, so if it isn't there, I know I will lose interest. I try to spare myself the emotional baggage of breaking up with someone becuase I tried to force myself to find them attractive. (happened twice when I was younger, thought that because I liked them as a person, I could eventually find them physically attractive, didn't happen and I felt like a jerk dumping them)

I still stand by my origional statement, i would rather have someone who had a decent personality and nice eyes than a model type who was conceited and vacent

I actually find plain-looking girls way more attractive than the "hot cheerleader" types. My NT friends think this is crazy, but I can't change the way I feel. When a hot girl approaches me or reponds well to my approach, I get very concerned: a girl like that can't possibly talk to me without either having some ulterior motive or simply trying to set me up (anyone remember the video on YouTube about the aspie kid?). However, when a plain-looking girl appoaches me or responds well to my approach, I feel very comfortable around her, and can't help but feel my level of interest skyrocket exponentially. Fortunately, the bullies in high school never caught on to this, which saved me from countless pranks.

So why do you approach them?

I approach them when I have a class-related question or need directions, which, I guess, doesn't count as a real approach. I NEVER approach "hot cheerleader" types with romantic intentions.