Playing Hard To Get

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I feel your pain on this one.

How you acted is exactly how I would have acted a few years ago. I wouldn't act that way anymore but I'd still feel like it.

When in doubt wait a little longer and collect more data before you go shooting off both barrels. The data never lies but people rationalize. So instead of asking them straight up "why are you acting like that?" just observe and tolerate. Eventually you will see their patterns of behavior and can make your own decision as to whether you can understand and live with the behavior.

In essence you are tying to answer the question of "should I be their friend or not?" and it is in my experience not a good idea to consult with the object of that question about the answer. The decision has to be yours and you will be better off not to bring the other party in on that kinds of decision. It is a skill though so practice at it. Practice at making judgments about others based on your own recognizance and most importantly practice having confidence in your own decisions.

I'm not sure if that philosophy works for you or not or if you already apply it or some other philosophy so in this case you may or may not have discovered her real baseline behavior. If you did then good for you as you don't have to devote resources to her anymore. If it was just a fluke like she is half attentive, has friends in her domicile and was half paying attention to them half paying attention to the computer etc... then you should have waited it out and learned more about her.

All in all I say you reacted just fine. Do yourself a favor and don't discount her. If she does recontact you then give it another shot. If she doesn't bring up the previous interaction then don't bother brining it up. Just wait and see how she behaves, get to know her more. The only risk I see is getting wrapped up in her if you ever do reconnect. It is very tough for an aspie to not get wrapped up whenever we discover a new "interest." Apply a lot of discipline to not be too interested. Make sure they are as interested in you as you are them and don't let a one time interaction signify interest on their part. Collect data over time, don't assume!

Good luck. Keep pushing yourself to interact with people, collect data, you'll be able to construct rules of thumb that makes sense to you based upon your own experience.