Honestly never think about 'flirting'

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I've never been able to read flirting. I always find out afterwards that I missed the cues.

Nope never understood flirting, I have actually had a friend decide to teach me to flirt. She is a pro at it and would use yahoo chat and emotion cons, I got a few flirts in but basically didn't get it. Luckily she is very understanding of my aspieness and doesn't hold it against me but still tries to teach me social skills regardless.

I'm not sure I even have the remotest idea how to flirt. I'm not aware of ever having done it, or being on the receiving end of it, except from my wife before we were married.

It never crosses my mind, either.

It depends on what you mean by flirting. If it's just "showing interest" like a new guy interested in making new friends, which might suggest to a particularly aware girl that you like her, then I do this without much trouble. If it's stuff like making sexual jokes, telling a girl in a somehow semi-joking manner that I find her attractive or dateable, or touching on the arm or shoulder, then no I don't do this at all. I've always been a fairly reserved individual, and try to be careful with the feelings and personal space of others when I'm aware of it, and I just can't mix this with being overtly interested in women.

ehh, my father had tried to teach me the whole flirting thing for years, but it never sunk in, prolly due toi the fact i dont want to smile and make myself look like an ass.

No. It's never occurred to me either. I can recognize it when it's dramatized, like on television shows or in movies, but in real life it just seems weird. I think it's one of those things where even if I was doing it correctly I would still feel extremely foolish. On one of the rare occasions when a girl tried to flirt with me I couldn't tell if she was being nice/serious or deliberately trying to embarrass me. I had no idea how to respond to it. Is the ambiguity on purpose or is there some way to distinguish serious interest from teasing? Ugh.

Quoting Musicboxforever

I have never flirted, I find it incredibly tacky.

I used to watch videos about how to date, and they considered just talking to a member of the opposite sex to be flirting.

I hate flirting, it gives me mixed signals that I have a hard time picking up on. If someone actually liked me, I'd be much happier if they just told me and if they don't like me that way, then they should leave me alone. I myself could never flirt because not only am I shy but chances are it will go badly. Plus almost every girl seems to already have a boyfriend anyways.

I've thought about it but I have no idea how to execute it. People might say watch videos or watch people flirting but that doesn't help an ounce.

The thing that I found helps in any regard is to hang around a group and just be into my interest. Apparently that's flirting enough for some women.