Finding Others Attractive

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For me attractive feature is smell - most of people just stink and some don't clean their hands. It makes me sick.
Visually: tall and fair or contrastive (pale skin, dark hair).

The most important things are personality and usability. But without bad smell - it's impossible to talk when I feel sick. I can stand sb's unatracctive natural body smell, but not swear and dirt.

Is this a real concern?

I'm not a big fan of ostentatiously bright or unique clothing, but I really like certain colors and such..
I tend to look down or just away from faces most of the time so I notice small things like shoelaces and shiny things.. My boyfriend does not wear much in the way of jewelery (nothing) XD but one of the first things I noticed about him (I was rather focused on the floor at the time) were his jeans. They were a good color and I really liked the back pockets Is that weird? They were perfectly rectangular instead of slightly tapered... ::ahem:: sorry.

hmmm....I seldom find people attractive....and I can very seldom sense when someone finds me to be attractive.
I am leery of conventionally handsome people...and seldom will pay attention to them unless their personality really seems to mesh with mine in some way....

I like odd appearances (otherwise I might not recognize a person when I saw them again )

..but it is really more of a vibe of someone that will appeal to me.

The time I seemingly "fell in love at first sight"...the guy was short and skinny and funny with a big nose and glasses and snaggly teeth and he was wearing really baggy dark clothes...but the thing that got me was that he took off his black stocking cap to reveal thinning spiky dark algae green colored hair....big mistake in my life falling for that one...He pursued me though...even though I couldn't stop thinking about him from the moment he took off his hat....he went out of his way to "get" me...otherwise, hopefully I would have gotten over it....instead there was a long messy 5 years of having my mind wrecked....though he figured out i was a basket case pretty quickly and dumped me after a few months.
He did sorta set a standard for features I would find attractive in others though...down the line...and of the relationships I have been in...the guys would often coincidentally have at least one or 2 features in common with him...My very AS-ish friend just happens to have his same birthday and basic political views and is balding, bespectacled and snaggletoothed...but he's a much gentler soul and not nearly so pretentious, and we get along infinitely better.

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It is somewhat unexplainable what it is that I will find attractive about someone..but if I like their mind, and feel some sort of connection to them, then whatever features they happen to have will become attractive to me usually....

Yes, hair is the most important feature to me, besides smell. XD;; (Mostly my requirement for smell is they can't smell like ass or anything ass-related.)
But in a few cases I have been more attracted by actual facial features than the hair of the person.
But I guess that's not much different. Actually that might be worse. XD;;; Because at least the person chooses their hair, which means it's part of their personality.
But really, personality effects all of a person's looks in some way. :3

I never realized that so much is perceived from a person by their hair.
I am very bad about mine, so I frequently wear a hat and only recently I acquired a hair stylist friend who cut it so it looks halfway decent and touches it up for me monthly and knows about my sensitivities and such and doesn't mind.

She just gave me purple streaks night before last..

Back in high school, it didn't stop the approaches when I shaved my hair completely off.

The same people just said my hair looked good shaved off too, and also when I wore glasses (you look good in glasses!).

Subjective, subjective and subjective.

Ha ha! I know what you mean - I guess I have met maybe 12 people in my life who I have felt attracted to (I suppose this means sexually attracted) and I am middle-aged. I find beauty contests totally incomprehensible. But we do have in our locality an "International" Lovely Girls contest, like in Father Ted except that it is the real thing, and much, much funnier than in the comedy series. I think that one of the requirements is that the contestants must be able to wrestle livestock to the ground, or kitchen, or whatever country folk do with livestock. They also have to have a talent, like singing or flower-arranging. There is also an annual (and this is entirely serious) agricultural bachelor competition where the winner has high hopes of finding a mate. It is as good as David Attenborough's best work.

I'm definitely in the "alternative view of beauty" department. If modern mainstream society thinks it's attractive, chances are I think it's horrible. The clothes and hair do make a difference to me, but probably not quite in the "normal" way, in some respects. It's rather complicated:

Even if my first impression of a person is that they're absolutely hideous or stunningly attractive, it's usually quite a fleeting impression, and as I get to know them then the ones whose behaviour I like seem to become beautiful, and the ones who annoy me seem to get uglier.

All other things being equal, I'm attracted to people who dress bohemian, or have some individuality about the controllable aspects of their appearance. I guess I pick up on the message that an individual dresser is likely to be independent-minded, and of course the bohemian thing means that I'm very likely in the presence of an artist

Women in conventional skimpy or tight clothes just give me a mild feeling of disgust, and if I see too much of it then it starts to bring out my Abrahamic side......"for God's sake put some bloody clothes on! " I try to remain impartial but there are clearly strong emotions at work. But it the sexualisation is more individualistic, I can react rather differently - initially I'll feel sexually excited, then I get rather scared and start wondering what they're up to. I really like the look of the ones who are demurely dressed but colourful, and I usually feel very safe with them. I hate to see men in shorts and I prefer them to keep their shirts on.

I dislike most modern suits, uniforms and "corporate" dressing, though I admire some Italian-cut suits on men, and Victorian costume is great, though I don't see that much outside of films. I don't much like pink or any other "cheap fluorescent" colours, though paradoxically I love those gaudy punk-rock hair jobs. I don't like modern spectacles because the lenses look much too small and they seem to make people's faces look ugly.

I don't like fussy hairstyles or those "basin-cut" ones that middle-class women used to have a couple of decades ago. I'm much more attracted to natural hair, just nicely washed and combed......I hate bleached blonde (the dark eyebrows give the game away) but I like Henna colours.

As for smells, I dislike strong perfumes and aftershaves, stale sweat, urine, faeces, second-hand garlic and foul breath. But I often quite like the natural smell of some people, the subtle odours that come from a reasonably well-washed body that isn't drenched in deodorants.

The way a person presents themselves often tells me a lot about their self-esteem and what kind of person they see themselves as. Hairstyle, makeup (on a guy or girl) and the clothing worn will often tell me how they view themselves to the world, because those aspects are readily changeable on a daily basis.

This may or may not be consistent with their personality, however. I know a few people whom I find irritating despite their put-together appearance, and who strike me as rather pretentious. On the contrary, I know a few individuals who stand out a lot due to fashion choices or hairstyles, and willingly admit their judgments about others but are more down-to-earth. For example, there is one girl I go to school with who just so happens to have a VERY edgy hairstyle, but has a very calm and collected personality, and a soothing presence even. Though I knew her before her hair was like that, I wouldn't necessarily expect her personality to go with her hair had I just met her, or maybe she would have given off a different vibe had I met her today.

Basically, appearances can be misleading. I find it really interesting though.

You guys are all mentioning personalities and such in congruence with their clothing or hair. This isn't the case for me. Even if I see a picture of someone with hair of clothing I like I can not stop staring at it. I would follow people around like this if I could.

I'm like this. It's not about wanting to have any kind of relationship with the person, it's just that I'm fascinated by their appearance. I have sometimes followed people, but only for a short distance, and only if it doesn't take me out of my way, much. I feel disappointed when I lose sight of them.

Pure artistic appreciation I think there's some correlation between some aspects of appearance and personality, but r<1. Not all that is gold glitters.

Purely a physical attraction?

Face.

Then body type.

The rest is superficial: hair, clothes, and especially jewelry. I pay no attention to that.

I'll sleep with anybody who'll have me.

be careful what you wish for.