AS female's views on guys

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Intelligence... it is not required that my partners be genius types, but I do appreciate big brains. They need to be passionate about something... anything... and not mind sharing with me what gets them going. They need to be open minded, tolerant and patient. They need to like weird people as I am not becoming 'normal' anytime soon... or ever... Heh. They have to be independent people who do not need to be in my face or in my space or emotionally demanding. I like people who do not hold conventional or traditional views on things. I need to be sexually compatible with them. I could not be with one of those people who value things like money, status, trends and such... I would much prefer to be with someone who values things like laying in the grass and looking for four leaf clovers. I need someone who thinks romance like candle lit dinners are overrated and thinks a nicer way to silently say 'I like you' is by asking me if I need a coffee refill as s/he goes to the kitchen to get one for him/herself.

1. kind

2. honest

3. open

4. smart

5. open-minded

6. a good friend

7. mature

8. patient

9. responsible/carries his own weight

10. must get along with my family

11. doesn't pressure me for sex or anything I'm not ready for

12. non-smoker

13. is faithful to me

14. likes/loves me for me

15. shares some of my interests

16. predictable(mostly)

17. shares my values/beliefs

18. has a good sense of humor

I dunno if I'm technically allowed to comment as I may only be a bit aspie-ish and not full blown aspie, but I think it's funny how a guy decided to ask about physical things whereas women are generally more interested in mental, emotional and spiritual compatibility. That's why the scene in Friends after Ross and Rachel kiss is hilarious. She describes the emotion of the event and he describes the physicality of it.

What I want in a man is someone who I can share the things I love with. Preferably someone who loves rock music or music of any kind what-so-ever. Must be passionate about something like art or music or nature. Somewhat eccentric. Someone who has a different way of thinking to me that can surprise me and delight me with their observations on life, someone who adds a different dimension to my world. Someone who accepts who I am and doesn't try to dress me up in fancy clothes or get me to do something with my hair. My hair is naturally wavy, I dry it straight with a hairdryer and brush, to me that is effort and that's about as much as I can manage. Must not be materialistic. I can go off a guy if he is too obsessed with money or high flying. You don't really need that much to get by. I would not be the kind of partner who would be bothered whether my curtains exactly match my cushion covers, I'm happy with what I have. However, he must be industrious. I want someone I can be proud of, even if he has a seemingly menial job, like sweeping a carpark, as long as he puts his all into it. And someone who will like hugs and snuggle up with me on the sofa just to watch tv.

Let the flirting commence!

Mick Avory is the only man on my mind...the young Mick Avory.

the old mick avory feels deeply hurt

Women are often less centred around looks.

Example:

Some annoying, immature guy with aspergers, who has ripped abs, and a huge package, I would not touch with a 10 foot pole.

I like different things about different guys. I am never attracted to a guy because he has a "hot body", its so meaningless to me. What I find attractive about the male body is more the skeletal structure, broard shoulders and narrow hips, which all men have regardless of whether they're fat or "ripped".

Lets have a look at the last 5 guys I thought were sizzling hot. Every one of them i've had someone say "EW" or "you can do better" when I said I liked them.

I am not about looks. I'm not about generic hot. The men who do it for me aren't generic hot pretty boys.

I don't know I suppose respect is a huge must. I just can't fathom myself being around a guy who can't respect me for myself. Another one is space, most people don't seem to understand that I need my space and time to be alone. If I don't get that I go crazy and end up running around screaming FREEDOM with blue paint on my face.

Other than that, it'd be nice to have some interests we'd share and could experience together. I'm one of those crazy hippy nature loving tree huggers. I'm also an animal lover so if the guy couldn't handle a dog or cat, I don't think it would work out too well.

Other than that I guess it would all depends and I would have to go by feeling rather than a list.

strong willed, strength of character, thinks outside the box, highly intelligent.

From what I can figure out, I think these are the traits I find most attractive. I've been trying to work out for ages what I actually am looking for in a guy, it's so hard to work it out.

oh, and open-minded.