What do girls mean when they say they want a bad boy?

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24 Mar 2010, 2:59 pm

It's means they want someone who is not you.

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24 Mar 2010, 3:00 pm

Zara wrote:

It's means they want someone who is not you.

Not necessarily.

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24 Mar 2010, 3:01 pm

They want a guy who's perceived the way I am on this site...a "bully" who also has a sensitive side. And the thing is, I'm not gloating, I don't think I'm a bully, I just think I have the mouth of an Aspie.

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24 Mar 2010, 3:13 pm

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But yes on the big, and beefy part. Ever notice how successful men, even in careers that don't necessarily require these atributes, are usually tall, well built, and good looking? Women go for that because men like that succeed.

Ever notice circular logic?
They succeed specifically because people associate these traits with tall, well built, good looking people.

Yes, I see what you mean.
The origin of this way of thinking is ancient, but we still abide by these ancient invisible 'laws'. It's amazing how little man has changed really when you think how long we've had.

But while they don't seem like useful traits in a modern civilised world, they are very useful in an uncivilised world, and it seems to me that we are always practically on the brink of being plunged into social chaos, or a dark age, and perhaps women innately feel that too. Taking a risk on a weedy, effeminate, over-civillised man is never a good bet. Just a theory.

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24 Mar 2010, 3:51 pm

a bad boy is an attractive rebellious type. He may do drugs, or have been in jail but normally he's just wild and rebellious. he may wear black. I've been accused of liking bad boys, but my boyfriend is the sweetest person (boy or girl) i've ever met.

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24 Mar 2010, 4:28 pm

therange wrote:

lol are all the girls busting moves on you then.

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24 Mar 2010, 4:32 pm

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Ive also been accused of likeing bad boys/men but I always think Im going for nice kind men. they seem to change over time from being friendly and loving to being critical and abusive. Im never sure how much of that is caused by me being tricked into thinking they were nice and how much is me driving nice men to nastyness with my annoying ways.

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24 Mar 2010, 5:27 pm

Janissy wrote:

It means different things to different girls. Above posters have given different examples of what it could mean. Each of those examples is likely true for at least some girls who have said it.

Precisely.

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24 Mar 2010, 5:42 pm

This has got to be the 10000000000th thread on here of guys whining about all women being idiots for liking a guy that isnt them.

Can we PLEASE stop this overgeneralizing of women's taste in men on here?!

This nice guy vs bad boy nonsense needs to stop! It's a bunch of B.S. Call yourself the nice guy OR the bad boy all you want but in reality you're just trying to find an excuse for when a girl is not interested in you. I've seen tons of guys who consider themselves to be very intelligent and claim to be "nice guys" commit all the same abuse that you say bad boys do...like demean and insult women. I kissed a lot of asses of these nice guys because they were considered society's good people but all they ever did for me was give me sh*t and insulted my own intelligence in return.

Am I not entitled to tastes or interests...or am I somehow considered stupid for having them? Some women will be interested in you and some will not. Some women will be with a guy that's mean to them and some will not.

This nice guy, bad boy stuff is NOT defined to some personality. A woman doesnt know how abusive a guy can be unless they're actually in a relationship with one and not every woman is going to consider it abuse.

Okay I know I'm going on about this too much but god I'm so sick of the same old threads popping up with this typical discussion...

"Why are girls always going for bad boys?"
re "Because they're stupid"

If that's not generalizing, I dunno what is!

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24 Mar 2010, 5:58 pm

Perhaps it's just for attention.

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24 Mar 2010, 6:16 pm

THEY WANT SOME TOUGH GUY WHO JUST GOT OUT OF JAIL
OR IS IN A MOTORCYCLE GANG LIKE HELL'S ANGELS
OR THE MAFIA OR A DRUG CARTEL...
OR A MARINE OR SOLDIER (sorry to imply including these in this set)
OR A BOXER OR RAPIST ... ETC.

THEY'RE CRUISIN FOR A BRUISIN, LOOKING FOR TROUBLE.

That is how I interpret the statement in my own mind.
How do you think any of the guys I just described interprets it?
Or rather, what is the literal meaning of what they are saying?
And why would they lie about something like that?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ja8xpPKwKMI

I think I'm being sarcastic but I am definitely not sure.

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24 Mar 2010, 6:29 pm

raisedbyignorance wrote:

Um, you're a fu¢king moron. Did you even read my original post? I was simply asking what a "bad boy" is and saying that I'm a social deviant but not a jerk. I never claimed to be a "nice guy". I even used the words "I'm a bad boy". So STFU, you ignorant little bit¢h.

God, I'm tired of being judged.

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24 Mar 2010, 6:38 pm

And for the record, I don't fit either the "nice guy" or "bad boy" stereotypes. I don't buy girls candy or flowers and I don't treat them like $hit either. You know what I do instead? I program computers and do calculus problems for fun and try to learn new things. I fit one stereotype only: NERD. That's what I am and that's what I always will be, so stop misinterpreting what I say and putting me in a box and telling me that I'm doing something wrong and need to change myself. I don't give a fu¢k what you guys think. Just let me be my fu¢king self.

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24 Mar 2010, 7:18 pm

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I don't give a fu¢k what you guys think. Just let me be my fu¢king self.

That's the attitude to have!

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24 Mar 2010, 7:23 pm

I generally ignore people like that.

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24 Mar 2010, 7:31 pm

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:

Well I'm not saying that guys need to change if girls dont like them. I saying that if a girl is not interested in someone because they're not what that girl looking for, they need to get over it and move on.

And my posts wasnt just directed at you, it was directed at several people who are jumping at stereotypical views of why people behave the way they do.

Permit me to quote something you said earlier on here...

LordoftheMonkeys wrote:

Moog wrote:

I figure that she wants an alpha male. The biggest, smelliest, most aggressive ape on the block. The one who can dominate all the other apes into giving up their resources to him, so he can then give them to her and her young.

When women say they want a bad boy, they don't mean a violent psychotic miscreant with a drug problem who can't function in society. Those people are just losers (though some women are attracted to them, usually quite damaged women). What they really mean is someone who's wilful and domineering and just intelligent enough to succeed.

So they want someone who is big, beefy, and stupid? I don't even want a girlfriend if girls are that dumb.

I dunno how you managed to twist Moog's words around to think that his last sentence was referring to someone big, beefy, and stupid. And so what if a girl wants that? Personally, I would hate to be with someone who is smarter than me cause that would result in bad chemistry and low self esteem of myself. I would prefer a guy who is on the same intellectual level as me without getting all caught up in their smarts because it makes me feel a little more comfortable and confident with myself. Sorry if the idea that "not all women can be geniuses" is too hard for some of you guys to take in.

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