Jealousy, self-hatred, and other nasty emotions.

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Au contraire. Last night I was talking to a girl that had contacted me through Lavalife. She had sent me a nice e-mail about how mature I am and how it's great that I'm not just out there looking for you-know-what. Anyways, we're chatting on MSN last night, and she's talking about her past relationships, then she's asking me about mine. Although I said I had dated a number of girls, she said she was uncomfortable with someone who was inexperienced. She insisted that any guy she'll consider has to have experience kissing. I tried to tell her that was really shallow but there was no reasoning with her - she just insisted that experience equals confidence. I asked her what was so great about confidence, but she had no answer. She didn't think there was anything shallow about it. Eventhough she likes everything else about me, my lack of experience is enough to turn her right off. Yes, the fact that I've never kissed a girl on the lips.

My advice:
Pay attention to her, but not too much attention. Try to figure out what she likes and win her over as a friend. Then, wait for her to break up with her current boyfriend. Get a little closer to her emotionally, but not too close. If she doesn't break up with her current boyfriend, she'll probably make a really good friend and you can leave it at that. If she does break up with her current boyfriend, try to find the right moment to ask her out yourself, and see what happens. Since you'd've known her for a while, there would be a good chance of her saying "yes."
If she doesn't, smile and say "let's just be friends." Then try to work out your feelings through some form of catharsis.
If she does, your life will go well and all will be settled.

I'm 20, so I have about six years until visible aging starts for both of us, and 15 years until fertility becomes an issue for the woman.

damn man, i feel for you.... what a stupid useless b****....! how the f*** does she think people GET experience in the first place! if she's with someone who doesn't ahve experience, maybe she should take the initiative... is that too much to ask!! ! sometimes i think computer games are better than real life... u kill people, u get experience... the computer doesn't tell you.... "sorry, you don't have experience, so go play another game"

Hey, at least you're finding girls there. Last I checked, the youngest woman on there was 25...not helping out seeing as I'm 19.

I was searching in Raleigh, the capital of North Carolina. Only 2 results, min age 25.

My advice:
Pay attention to her, but not too much attention. Try to figure out what she likes and win her over as a friend. Then, wait for her to break up with her current boyfriend. Get a little closer to her emotionally, but not too close. If she doesn't break up with her current boyfriend, she'll probably make a really good friend and you can leave it at that. If she does break up with her current boyfriend, try to find the right moment to ask her out yourself, and see what happens. Since you'd've known her for a while, there would be a good chance of her saying "yes."
If she doesn't, smile and say "let's just be friends." Then try to work out your feelings through some form of catharsis.
If she does, your life will go well and all will be settled.

Another girl who doesn't know what she wants. In any case, the requirement of "experience" is very shallow and stupid. I'd be interested to see what jman has to say about that.