AS/AS relationships aren't exactly easy either

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I guess it worked out because while we were a mis match in some respects we each satisfied each others need for knowledge and for talking about the world and things that we wanted to learn and understand. That was something neither of us got from our friends or family and so being able to have those conversations is something both of us still miss now even after the mutual ending of our relationship.

Things we did that were part of our AS behaviour were more tolerated and understood then in my previous relationships. We both had a similair style of humour, we had our own tastes in music and she had her art work (of which she is very good at, traditional ar very good, has a degree in scentific illustration) were as I was a professional working with disabled people. There were interestes we shared. We had our arguments, but I think that was more because of her cultural background and upbringing from her part of the UK more then anything else. I think perhaps our downfall was we were emotionally and socially becoming too dependent on each other when we were both wanting to follow differnt paths. I being attached to my career as a learning disability nurse her wanting to pursue expanding her art work into tattoes and wanting to gain independence for living at her parents and not being financially dependent on me or her sister.

I'm not really able to go into more detals then that its not fair to talk about her or myself or our relationship on a board were people we both know IRL post. Also this month will be month 4 since our relationship ended and the emotional fallout from the event is still a raw wound on my person at this moment in time....not helped by my burnout and other things going on at the moment.

Just a quick update: she decided to ignore me, so now we're not even friends.

realationships arnt exatcly easy. peroid

my expereince might help

i cant help it i like aspie girls and guys i feel like i resonate on the same frequency and we cna understand one another better.

my first relationship was with an aspie guy and he pushed me away because he has a hard time letting go of past relationships and letting love and he is going through a difficult tiem in his life.it just wasnt a healthy relationship. im just having a really really hard time getting over him even though i know i deserve better.
there is another aspie guy tha ti kind of like now but i just broke up 2 weeks ago with my last bf and i got really depressed hanging out with the new guy and comparing it to my last relationship.
i dont want my feelings for my ex to get in the way forever or ill become even more suicidal.
i also have a crush on this girl who funny enough dosent have aspergers.

i feel like i want to keep trying

not t0 be blunt but i dont really care if its to perceived to be a bad or good idea for aspies to date. i just want as much info/relationship advice as humanly possible.

i cant help it i like aspie girls and guys i feel like i resonate on the same frequency and we cna understand one another better.

my first relationship was with an aspie guy and he pushed me away because he has a hard time letting go of past relationships and letting love and he is going through a difficult tiem in his life.it just wasnt a healthy relationship. im just having a really really hard time getting over him even though i know i deserve better.
there is another aspie guy tha ti kind of like now but i just broke up 2 weeks ago with my last bf and i got really depressed hanging out with the new guy and comparing it to my last relationship.
i dont want my feelings for my ex to get in the way forever or ill become even more suicidal.
i also have a crush on this girl who funny enough dosent have aspergers.

i just want to know what to do! i want a relationship book for as-as or for someone who has as not for the partner who has as(normally a guy)

Necro thread hi-jacking, heh.

Happy Friday the 13th Aspies!

I would say I can go either AS or NT. I definitely have Aspie traits, such that I tend to focus intensely on just a few things, have a hard time paying a medium amount of attention to things (I tend to either ignore or obsess), and think that 90% of "white lies" are not as white as they're made out to be. That being said, I may have been more rigid in childhood but I've let go of a lot of OCD things, and because I'm excellent at following fair or semi-fair rules to the letter, I would likely do things the other Aspie's way in an AS-AS relationship. I would enjoy having the structure.

If a NT has enough interest in AS to actually fall in love with me, the NT has enough interest in AS to actually think about the different ways I think.

It would probably vary by how severe one has it. I have mild AS, and I have trouble understanding some of the unwritten social cues that NTs give out, yet a relationship with someone who has significantly severe AS could also be problematic.