18 Apr 2010, 12:45 am
Sound wrote:
Janissy wrote:
What a lot of women really want is a hero. A hero has the backbone, the self confidence, the assertiveness and the willingness to take risks yet he is not a jerk. So he is the star of countless stories and is the star of literally every romantic fantasy written for girls and women. Heroes are in shorter supply than jerks. But jerks have the self confidence and willingness to take risks that heroes also have so many women fool themselves into thinking that the man in front of them has hero potential (because of his confidence etc.), especially if he's good at hiding his jerkiness initially.
..... BRILLIANT! This is great! You are precisely right, and moreover, you have just made me realize that the term hero is an incredibly good summary and stereotype of what women usually tend to want. In it's place, people have been using such BS as 'Alpha-Male,' whose definitions are all over the damn place, and carry an icky pick-up connotation, and can bring to mind the manipulative elements from the culture it comes from. Other terms like Leader are also lacking for what they don't include - it's too specific. And this also sidesteps the mess of the Nice-Guy/Jerk comparison.
But the ideal of a typified hero is just about perfect. It's much more organic and elegant. Nicely done...
A (real) hero is a coward who's in the wrong place at the wrong time, with no choices left.
Oh, well. You've probably just given hope to several guys. Thanks.
