Going back to an ex

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I would say no, but I always find myself doing it anyway, and always telling myself "Yeah, this is exactly what you expected to happen."

No, once I have broken up with someone, that's usually it, they may think there's still hope, but I will only put up with so much sh!t and then I'm finished with them.

Definitely not to my ex-wife. Definitely not to my ex-gfs. There's one ex-gf who stands out from the others, however. I had more respect for her than anyone else at the end of a relationship. Just as I was about to complete graduate school, we had the conversation about my future plans. She wanted me to move closer to where she was in a smaller, more rural area. She would not consider any sort of move, because she wanted to remain close to where her parents lived. I wanted to live in a much bigger area. We were unable to compromise on that, and she chose to end the relationship. She never told me until a few years later, but she thought I was the man for her and wanted for me to marry her eventually. That's how much potential she saw in me.

Do I regret not having moved closer to where she was at the time? No. Would I consider moving closer to where she is? No. She's someone who's a good friend of mine, and I continue wishing her well. Romantically, there's nothing there. Was once back about six years ago. I'm not remotely interested in rekindling the flames of love with her.

Err not to be a smart ass or anything, but if you seriously need a poll(or the advice of relative strangers) to decide then probably no.

IMO, before making a decision to reconcile, the question that has to be answered - as objectively and dispassionately as possible - is "What will be different this time?"

People can learn from their mistakes; we can realize the value in a relationship that at one time seemed disposable; we can grow. Attraction isn't enough....love isn't even enough if both partners aren't willing to acknowledge the problems and commit to fixing them - together. Sometimes losing someone is the motivation to do the work needed to make the relationship succeed.

It depends why. Sometimes ex's promise they have changed and they won't be this or that anymore. But you never know. You can give them one chance and that's it. Some women keep going back thinking they have changed every time because the guy had said he has and then it turns out he is the same person as always.
If a broke up happened over a misunderstanding and the partner refused to listen to your side of the story, then eventually he found out how wrong he was and decided to come and take you back, I would take him back.

Sometimes people get back together after working out their problems and coming up with a solution or the partner had decided to seek help for their problems.

I answered no because, so far, I have never got back with ex as I feel there is always a reason why it ended in the first place, and that reason will always be there, making getting back with someone a complete and utter waste of time as well as creating more heartache for yourself.

I am only talking about getting back together if the initial relationship ended due to some circumstance unrelated to the actual relationship (being in college, overseas military deployment, etc.)