musicboxforever wrote:
I just wanted him to go away because I was embarassed. And that is part of the problem. I feel stupid when I like someone. I don't like it, so I avoid him. I'm doomed.
And that, OP, is the real issue. All that stuff about him being all self-sufficient, etc. are excuses. You don't like feeling the vulnerability (that we all feel, btw) that liking someone causes. Your behavior is actually typical: we tend to try to find fault with the object of our affection, for the very reason that it lessens that feeling of vulnerability, e.g., if we find fault, they can't be
that great, and if they're not
that great, it won't be so disappointing if they don't like us.
Hon, there's no way around it - if you want the relationship, you're going to have to power through the discomfort. Or....don't power through it and don't have the relationship. It's your choice, but remember: nothing ventured, nothing gained. Good luck.
13 May 2010, 5:13 pm
