20 May 2010, 7:19 pm
20 May 2010, 7:39 pm
Freak_Contagion wrote:
Good deal Jerry. I'm glad you're happy with what you're trying. Just be sure you're not afraid to speak your mind when the moment comes though.
Mm, yeah. Good point. I kind of noticed with my last serious relationship. I had this moment with our first couple serious conversations, but she never did, and eventually she just old me she never felt a spark, and I probably should've been able to tell. =/.... To her I think I was more of an experiment. A rare chance to try a relationship dynamic that doesn't usually occur. (Our first serious conversation went into was about our awkwardness about gender rules, and sense of discomfort being stuck in the "guy" role and the "girl" role, even though neither of us cared to alter our bodies or was uber-bothered by this.) She even claimed to have had fun with that.
It's really not fun when it works out that way, with a one-sided head-over-heels feeling and a drawn-out relationship. .__.;... For that reason, I've since tried to always break things quickly once I realize that I'm really just not interested. I don't want to make anyone hurt like that....
Mosaicofminds wrote:
But if you're not attracted to them from the beginning, then no offense, but if you become friends with them, I don't see it ever getting out of the friend zone. The attraction just isn't there. On rare occasions it's possible to get out of the friend zone with a relationship like this, but it never does develop into real love. The attraction grows, the affection grows, but there's a feeling of something missing, and then you realize you never went through that "head over heels" phase everyone else did, and it doesn't seem to be coming any time soon, either.
YMMV, of course.
YMMV, of course.
Mm, yeah. Good point. I kind of noticed with my last serious relationship. I had this moment with our first couple serious conversations, but she never did, and eventually she just old me she never felt a spark, and I probably should've been able to tell. =/.... To her I think I was more of an experiment. A rare chance to try a relationship dynamic that doesn't usually occur. (Our first serious conversation went into was about our awkwardness about gender rules, and sense of discomfort being stuck in the "guy" role and the "girl" role, even though neither of us cared to alter our bodies or was uber-bothered by this.) She even claimed to have had fun with that.
It's really not fun when it works out that way, with a one-sided head-over-heels feeling and a drawn-out relationship. .__.;... For that reason, I've since tried to always break things quickly once I realize that I'm really just not interested. I don't want to make anyone hurt like that....
Thanks!
At I am doing my best while building motivation to express myself to them.
21 May 2010, 3:50 am
23 May 2010, 7:43 am
zen_mistress wrote:
Good luck, Jerry, I think you are doing a great thing, as having female friends means meeting other females through them... even if nothing happens with these two there can be other opportunities...
Thanks!
I am comfortable around these two ladies at the moment since we feel like a family in the brother-sister way. I am confident someday one of them will tell me something that I can reciprocate back to them and visa versa.
| Similar Topics | |
|---|---|
| Why does stuttering seem common in ASD? |
03 Jun 2025, 12:26 pm |
| Everything makes a lot more sense. New here. |
13 Apr 2025, 6:18 pm |
| In The Biblical Sense |
13 May 2025, 12:21 am |
| Sensory Overload in One Sense Leading to Noise in Others |
18 Apr 2025, 2:43 pm |
