Would you consider this person (myself)...normal looking?

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I think you look fine. Some mentioned a hair cut, but I rather like your shaggy style. Unsure, but maybe you're self conscious being an Aspie (not how you look)?

Just anecdotal, but I believe many (not all) Aspies have a certain look and you may be in this category. From my pictures, and others, we can look "far away" or distracted somehow. Strangely, I've had a few strangers say "You have beautiful eyes," which is a compliment, or that I am beautiful/pretty (not saying this in vain, just relating here). At the same time, I've been told I have a strange gaze, like a "deer in the headlights" look.

One I know and trust said, in a nice way, that she has a friend (NT) that has epilepsy that has eyes like mine that she's not ever seen before. I'm not an epileptic, but I think I know what she means. I've had medical doctors ask a few times, with objectivity - like if I'm OK. I might seem, to others, as if I am slightly vision impaired or even deaf - disconnected somehow.

Maybe that's what you mean? But you look good - wistful somehow. To me, Aspies have sad eyes. Or expressive.

Yeah, you look pretty good. I agree with spiders, it is less how you look and tons more as for how you groom yourself. Dander can build up and the odor permeates hats, bandannas, shirt collars. . .

I can take a lot of solid physical ugly if the dude takes care of himself. (and smiles just for me. . . (swoon!)

I think you look normal. I think a shorter hair cut, like a Caesar cut, would look nice on you.

Conversely, growing your fringe out might be a nice look, too. The all-long thing like Fabio or like the werewolf boy in Twilight before he cut his hair short. Except it takes a lot longer to grow fringe long than to cut everything short. And growing out fringe can be awkward.

Cut the hair.

Do away with the mustache and you'll be solid, imo.

Get a haircut and a shave, although this may be the generation gap talking here. Apart from that you look OK.

Vanilla_Slice

This is the best advice there is. Most people are shallow, take note of those who aren't! That's a life lesson for you.

Haha! dont worry, i know your just trying to help. and yeah i dont think its because of any personal hygene issue, i do all of the above and more. although i did go through a small phase of being paranoid about that, even though i was fine.

^ That's right, and no need to worry (you're fine)! I think you look like your avatar.

thats the best compliment i've recieved so far XD

You have what is classed as an EMO haircut , if you like it keep it...

However shave the tash! , atleast until you can compliment a good goatee

Hi,

I think you look perfectly normal. I just wanted to make a suggestion, based on my own experience.

If the goal is to be happy with yourself, be aware that no one can please / make friends with everybody. Just be yourself.
If the goal is to change the perception of other people, then I guess the following steps could work:

1- try to find people around you who attract the attention (or lack of) that you would like to attract for yourself
2- identify what it is they do or look like that differentiate them from the crowd (smile, show interest for mundane things, clothing style, haircut, etc)
3- incorporate these things into what you do
4- see if people react to you differently
5- iterate

Good luck.

right-hand-child i think you look fine, mustache and all! Then again, i like men with long hair and beards/mustaches!

When I was your age I'd have had a crush on you. You look fine (if somewhat haunted) to me. A different hair cut might make you look more "normal", but I wouldn't necessarily worry about it. Someone's going to like your slightly elfin good looks one day. There are girls out there who would like what you look like.

Just be happy with yourself.

i would not notice anything about you unless you asked, and since you did, i would say that your nose is very large in comparison to your mouth. your lips are very small and not jubey like many people would like to kiss.

you have high cheek bones and it makes your face look a bit thin.

but if i was not asked to scrutinize your face i would not think anything at all about it.
it is not outstandingly ugly in any way that is alarming.