Repetitive Rejection is NORMAL

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I also think that a lot of normal guys handle rejection a lot better then these "hot" guys.

I know the type. Guys that think they are hot, think they can get anyone they want, if one girl rejects them or says shes not attracted to them, they lose it because they can't handle it.

I would like to think guys (and girls) who have been rejected lots to be tougher and more clued up emotionally than these said douche bags.

The unfortunate thing is there aren't dozens of women just waiting for you in the wings. If you're still in high school or you're in college, you're going to be surrounded by a lot more people your own age. After college, it isn't like that. You'll work with people over a variety of ages; coworkers where I work are all older than me, and programming is a male-dominated profession. The area I live in seems to have a surfeit of elderly people and also people raising kids; people in their twenties, I just don't run into very much (especially twenty-something-year-old women who are single).

I join Meetups and stuff, but I guess I've mostly got "stuffy" interests, so no women there.

Well -- now that you have sized up the obstacles -- what's your next move? If you know what you want, you have to go out of your way (and your comfort zone) to get it/find it. Clearly staying where you are now is not going to work, and trying to find someone at work (or depending on that) is not a winning plan.

You have to make your luck.

Also - I've found that women do tend to find you (as opposed to you looking for them) when you are successful, single, and happy. Get there, and they will find you.

It also depends on how socially ative you are. Many NT guys who get rejected and pick themselves back up and get right back to it are doing lots of social things, not all of them, but a lot. This means their chances of eventually having a girl accept them, even if just for a single date is quite a bit higher. Myself, for example, am not afraid of rejection. If a girl interests me and I know enough about her to want to spend more time with her, I'll ask her out. My problem is that only seems to happen once every 2 - 3 years and she'll either be in a relationship/married or something like that.

Every rejection is just another step bringing you closer to a success

You haven't been rejected. You've just found another person who isn't worth your time. =P

"I tell ya when I was a kid, all I knew was rejection. My yo-yo, it never came back!"
the late Rodney Dangerfiled

I kind of agree with this post in a way but I do NOT agree about faking being cheerful. That's false advertising & I personally kinda like people who aren't cheerful. I like EMO women

100 years after the Interpretation of Dreams, western society is still as repressed as ever - and still suffering from it.

What does that mean?

He's talking about Freudian sexual repression. (Or at least some form of it.)

Frued: The Interpretation of Dreams

It is true that America seems to have a lot of issues with sex. If it's not some sort of stuffy prudish beliefs that get thrown out the window first time you get horny, it's a slew of one-night stands and STDs.

American culture, at least when it comes to sex, isn't exactly the spitting image of good mental health.

Every rejection is a dagger stabbed into my heart.

This is why I make the women come begging to me; but by the grace of God I am a good man and I almost always give them what they want, I never reject them. I make love to them, passionately, all night long; and they love me for it.

You aren't fooling anyone?

The love that women have for me is both lustful and tender and merciful; it is as all their dreams (sexual and emotional) are fulfilled in My person.

If women love you so much why do you act so desperate? Seriously, from your posts alone you seem like a 14 year old virgin, no offense intended.

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I'm not desperate for anything; I am simply overflowing with joy and enthusiasm and I want to share the way I feel with others.

Stop coming onto me, I already told you that I'm not interested.