Taking love for granted

Post Reply New Topic

...and I've known some low self-esteem players, both NT and AS.

(And, "No, I have no idea how that works.")

I agree. I have no self-esteem & the one time I actually had someone; I don't think I ever took her for granted. I was constantly trying to do everything I could to make her happy & to let her know how much she meant to me. I was paranoid of losing her & I think that's one of the rezones I lost her. She kept complaining about me be too sensitive

Nick, I think that may end up being the point of this thread: we can't generalize.

Some people are way sensitive, and some aren't, regardless of their AS or NT status.

I think HopeGrows analysis of patterns is spot on.

(Although I still think some patterns may be more common in some populations of aspies. )

May be people with low self esteem are more likely to settle on someone they wouldn't have liked otherwise; and the latter is the ultimate reason why they fail to love their partner on the long run.

so am i, and i'm a woman. (all gender stereotypes are harmful, not just the ones that harm women)

just thought it should be said.

There is no correlation because there aren't enough fact to determine in universal factor. It is clearly a random situation or other parts that could determine the cause of "taking love for granted"

Not understanding is a lacking for social.

I still trying to understand why people don't understand what 50% divorce rate mean and go ahead marrying or talk about "quick to marriage".

I have someone with BiPolar and said that he planning on marrying someone after the 3rd dates. There was another gentlemen with BiPolar that talk about marrying and get a kids. It just that some people including those with BiPolar or other diagnose will lacked the understanding what is love.

Can someone debate with me about "love first sight"? It really emotional because you like what you see and you end up getting a crush on many women or men.

Love should have a steering wheel and a brake with a pair of eye, ear, and a brain.

It just someone among the 50% divorce rate doesn't have it or just doesn't give a crap about their kids and partner.

You need a faithful person and give up on her. She doesn't sound committed to you. She more like that Kin phone commercial where the guy was taking picture of his unhappy ex-girlfriend. I don't know how stupid the guy was to date someone, who isn't in the mood for him. The girl probably left him after he finished posting pictures of her and off with another guys. Oh and by the way, thank for letting me waste $20 on you!

So, if it isn't you, it her's problem.

I get feedback from someone who been with several girls and said that he liked girls that are open and doesn't become a brat or ingrate that want something just because he is dating.

On the other hand, the men can do the samething then go off with another girls and dump the other girls or cheating in worse case.

It is a tradition for males to ask for a date not the other way around. Don't think what I said was sexist because in other cases or other countries, it is either gender.

Last edited by Bopkasen on 23 Jun 2010, 7:51 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I haven't any idea whether I'd take a relationship for granted; having never had one.

I did used to take basic friendships for granted though.