Weddings...how to you feel about them?

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I think weddings are very silly. I'm less leery of marriage. Even so, I feel like in too many cases, it's just insecurity.

I had a wedding once . . . a ritual that my ex and I adapted, and we were the only two people present. It felt nice, but ultimately felt like nothing . . . nothing more than a subtle justification of calling each other husband and me changing my last name.

I think I'd like to find someone again, someday, but not so much that I ever need to get married. If they needed to, I'd be fine with it, either legally or symbolically.

I wouldn't invite people, however. What fun would that be for me? Isn't a wedding just an excuse for a honeymoon? And isn't a honeymoon just an excuse for the closest thing to your dream vacation you'll likely experience?

Getting married is something I would like to do, but definitely not necessary or anything. I'm not going to get married just to say I'm married or for show. It would be sort of an achievement for me, because the idea of marriage to me is kind of scary. I don't like being around someone 24/7, I'm not co-dependent at all, I'm a bit of a commit-o-phobe...the list goes on. So I look at marriage with a bit of an attitude like I'm going to conquer some kind of challenge. I know that sounds kind of dumb and illogical, but I'm not getting married now anyway so it's okay, lol.

As for how I feel about them...I don't mind going to them, I never cry at them or anything. They're boring when they drag out the ceremony. I don't understand when people get engaged and never make plans for a wedding, just say they're engaged (a lot of my friends do that). And I don't understand people that stay together for 15 years or something and are practically married, but won't have a ceremony or get a license even if their "spouse" wants it.

Weddings happen all the time, as do divorces.

I personally don't see the big deal in weddings and marriage - what's the point? The average UK wedding costs £15,000! FIFTEEN GRAND. For what? Nothing you can't have if you cohabitate, that's what.

If you honestly think you need a legally binding contract to stay in a relationship with someone, you should probably question whether or not you should be in that relationship at all.

Considering how high the divorce rate is, though, they don't even seem to work at keeping people together!

In fact, considering that we're now in the 21st century, and there is no longer even the excuse of stigma if you don't get married (it's outside the norm not to, but there's no massive stigma attached), I could even go so far as to say that marriage is effectively obsolete - as is the idea of institutions such as churches and the government having to approve relationships.

Weddings: over-rated and boring. I've had two, I'm done.

Weddings are horribly boring and expensive and usually packed full of sexist traditions. As for marriage, there are some benefits that come along with marriage like insurance and certain tax breaks that may make it beneficial for some - though even amicable divorce can be expensive and outweigh the benefits.

I would like to get married one day... however as many people already said. Weddings are horribly boring and dull affairs. I would have a very casual ceremony, and rather than ceremony and tradition, fun would be goal. A small gathering of very close friends and relatives, the marriage ceremony in very casual apparel, and then... laser tag! Or something like that...

The "happiest day of my life" thing is silly. It should be thought of as "among the happy days" rather than setting an unobtainable benchmark. (And silly; there's bound to be better ways of having fun with your SO than standing in a church, even if you are only gonna do it once... )

And the expense thing is just ludicrous. I don't know how people afford it. I don't know why they want to afford it. Stupid stupid stupid.

Wedding photographers are really minions of the lord of darkness. They teleport around under a glamour, slipping from place to place, capturing the guests and freezing them into position with rictus grins before stealing their souls into a little black box and ransoming them back for obscene prices once the hangovers clear. Evil.

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My proper answer to the question is "I feel really bad about them." But it's a bit personal.

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