My self-esteem dealt a blow today....

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In that case, I don't see why you're even taking it seriously unless you're interested in men as opposed to women.

Also people down rate you. It happens on every site that has a rating system. Some people go to those things and down rate the more attractive person in a hope to try and crush their self esteem.

I've had friends who have been downrated, and other friends who admit to downrating.

I wouldnt take this as a decent example of how attractive you are.

Actually, men are my prime area of interest...



I never really thought of that. You think people downrate others on dating sites, too?

Don't think, I know. Its very very common. It may also explain why you won against that guy you thought you should have lost against

Touché.

I like the one without the glasses better too.

Also, give it a little time. The rest of the NT world isn't as glued to technology as we are (or at least me!)

You look normal, don't worry about it. 50% is good, shows that you are middle of the pack.

Also, looks are highly subjective -- what one person likes, another person won't, and that's just life. Even people considered very attractive by the majority of the population may be unattractive to the people that matter, and vice versa.

Finally, make sure the pix you put up aren't distorted in any way (one of the ones you posted here appeared to be horizontally compressed), and show some variety. One study I read of Facebook and dating site pictures said that often a picture of the person staring at something other than the camera (off into space, a monitor, etc.) was often rated just as attractive, if not more, than a picture that has the person staring into the lens.

I hear this all the time & still don't get what defines an "ugly girl" or "ugly guy". I've only met one person for sure who I found totally 100% repulsive based on looks; everyone else I liked/disliked for their personality and grew to appreciate their looks, found displeasure in their looks or remained in constant neutral.

We don't literally mean Jabba-the-Hutt-Ugly or deteriorating homeless guy ugly -- what we (at least I) usually mean is someone that is homely or not nearly as handsome as one would expect to be to be able to land some of the prettier girls out there. In high school, most of us guys see the strongest, most mature, handsomest guys really clean up girlfriend-wise. It's a hard mindset to get out of when we hit the older ages and see that guys with average or below-average looks often do quite well in the dating department later in life.

That and the angle/quality of the picture...

For what it's worth, I myself look better in the mirror than in pictures.

Remember that the camera (still or video) adds 10 pounds -- seriously.

it really is true that for some people looks is only a small portion of how people perceive you. For example, with the way that you look, you could go two directions, unattractive and attractive. Its really the way that you carry yourself. If you got some confidence more women would find you attractive. In the picture you look goofy and this is taking away from your potential sex appeal.

Focus on your priorities. Presumably you only really want to find one person who finds you attractive, not a majority of people.