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23 Jul 2010, 1:33 pm

I emailed with him today and I dont think he will ever change his mind, he says I never met his emotional needs and made him very cross.

life really sucks.



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23 Jul 2010, 1:42 pm

Oh, that's awful. ((hugs)) You seem very cool Lotusblossom, he's definitely losing out.



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23 Jul 2010, 2:04 pm

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Oh, that's awful. ((hugs)) You seem very cool Lotusblossom, he's definitely losing out.

thanks thats kind of you :)

however I think that he is not looseing out as he is happier without me, he would be looseing out to stay with me who he does not like and who makes him miserable. Im the one looseing out as he made me happy and I loved him very much.



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23 Jul 2010, 3:36 pm

lotusblossom wrote:
happymusic wrote:
Oh, that's awful. ((hugs)) You seem very cool Lotusblossom, he's definitely losing out.

thanks thats kind of you :)

however I think that he is not looseing out as he is happier without me, he would be looseing out to stay with me who he does not like and who makes him miserable. Im the one looseing out as he made me happy and I loved him very much.


I couldn't bring myself to be with someone who is unhappy with me, regardless of how much I love that person.

Some of my exes were (and still are) truly amazing people. Even the best books still have endings - the best thing to do is to just pick up another one.



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23 Jul 2010, 3:57 pm

Ambrose_Rotten wrote:
lotusblossom wrote:
happymusic wrote:
Oh, that's awful. ((hugs)) You seem very cool Lotusblossom, he's definitely losing out.

thanks thats kind of you :)

however I think that he is not looseing out as he is happier without me, he would be looseing out to stay with me who he does not like and who makes him miserable. Im the one looseing out as he made me happy and I loved him very much.


I couldn't bring myself to be with someone who is unhappy with me, regardless of how much I love that person.

Some of my exes were (and still are) truly amazing people. Even the best books still have endings - the best thing to do is to just pick up another one.

yes your right.



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23 Jul 2010, 8:34 pm

lotusblossom wrote:
How long should you wait after a relationship ends before you start dating again?

I dont want to date again while there is a chance that my ex will change their mind and come back, but how long should I wait before I decide there is no hope and move on.

I also think it is not healthy to move between relationships too quickly, as one needs time to heal and learn lessons. However getting a new love is the quickest/easiest way to get over an ex and feel better.

what are your opinions on when its best to date again?


I've heard the rule of thumb is about a month or two.