Why did these neurotypical boys flex their muscles at me
The_Face_of_Boo
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ProfessaM wrote:
Really I have one bully whom is very attractive and muscular due to playing football. I asked him to flex them as I have a fascination with them. He then said "Damn!" and was showing off to this friend Lachlan of his who I find equally as enraging. And then all of a sudden his friend, my other teaser, asked me if I wanted to see his. I felt them and he just went all crazy with laughter. This was in the hall. Then another boy who I know came after and asked me "What about mine?" I felt them to and he just squirmed. What! Three boys in a row came to me that morning so I could feel their muscle. Lachlan tapped through his class window and flexed them to me again, like he was looking for my approval. Can anyone explain what this is? And whenever I am walking at lunchtime they call me and say "Jake (my attractive one) wants a hug" or he "Wants to get naughty" What the? I find them always testing me. And plus I once sarcastically blew a kiss to Jake and then they all said "Woooooow!" As if it gave them a thrill.
I knew such bullies ..... they were used to bully me. Do they bully you? I doubt it.
I knew girls like you, the bullies' female fans, who liked such bullies. Those girls were used to encourage their bully behavior , directly and indirectly (by boasting them when they hit someone weaker, by cheering them, showing affection ....etc) .
As an answer to your question, it's simply really: You gave them the attention they are seeking for (the same attention that they worked out so hard for) and that's why they 're craving for more.
Why don't you date Jake? You two sound fascinated toward each others , it is so common to see relationships emerging between bullies and bullies' fans.
GoatOnFire wrote:
From what is described I do not think they are making fun of you. I think they thought you were flirting with them, and they took it as a big compliment that you were interested in their muscles, and yes, they probably think you were interested in them, too.
But do be careful, this part
makes me think that at least one of them is probably going to try to sleep with you, and if in the wrong setting maybe without consent. Just be aware of this possibility.
But do be careful, this part
ProfessaM wrote:
And whenever I am walking at lunchtime they call me and say "Jake (my attractive one) wants a hug" or he "Wants to get naughty" What the? I find them always testing me. And plus I once sarcastically blew a kiss to Jake and then they all said "Woooooow!" As if it gave them a thrill.
makes me think that at least one of them is probably going to try to sleep with you, and if in the wrong setting maybe without consent. Just be aware of this possibility.
unfortunately the public 'flirting' makes ProfessaM vulnerable in this regard; If one of them is dangerous, he will have considered how easily he could present a fake (but faintly credible) narrative of 'she wanted it' based on all these previous encounters.
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