Tiggurix wrote:
Surya wrote:
Tiggurix wrote:
Yes, I'm 18 years old, and I'm male.
In regards to your question: I would feel it was condenscending, patronising, humiliating and unjustified, even if that was not your intention.
Why would you feel that way thought?
Even after I had said don't, there was no reason to feel that way, you still felt it. It wasn't until I gave you reasons why you should not feel that towards me did you stop.
I didn't feel that way when you said it to me, I just think it is a horrible thing to say to a person and that it can make some people feel like a 'victim'.
I would feel that way because they would in essence be 'looking down on me' as a person, not really offering me sympathy but instead feeling 'sorry' for the fact that I couldn't do better, or something along those lines.
Right. So how is it any different from when you said it to me? Just because someone has parents, doesn't mean their life will be any better then those that were 'raised' how I was.
Would you have felt less pity and not be sorry for me in the beginning if you had known that by the time I was your age, I had hitch-hiked across canada 4+ times, return trips. That I had lived off of fresh crab for about 2 years and lobster for a couple months? I had been to California twice, had train surfed, jumped off bridges, been a part of two different tracks, where I first worked and then also raced. owned two cars to do that. That I know I can survive living in the forest off of what grows there and lives there for at least 2 years before needing people? That I had read everything in two smallish libraries? that I only fear a couple things (ticks and leaches just gross me out). That I never graduated from high school as a teen, but I did as an adult and received insanely good marks.. that I had to check to see if they were correct, I thought the grading had gotten screwed up. That I would never want to trade my past with anyone, nope.. I do not believe in material things or even money.. yet I took an accounting programme and tax law crap.. I am heading to the UK for university in about a month, where I will be taking a joint honours programme in Education and Psychology, took me awhile longer then I had first planned it to, but I am finally going.
So honestly, does it seem like I could have had a better life? Possibly, who knows, maybe would have gotten to the UK sooner, but oh well.. I did other things instead.
Pity and feel sorry for those that deserve it, not those that can make a change in their circumstances and did.
Make sense?
08 Aug 2010, 2:28 pm
