I want a relationship NOW!! !

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As a 22 year old "NT" girl, I thought I could lend some advice.

Be careful approaching an attractive girl that you don't know, because they probably already have a lot of weird guys bothering them for sex and they might feel like you are that type of guy. When you approach them don't act like you are looking for a relationship. Just act like you would if you saw another guy and wanted to chat with him.

That is like a big turn off to me if some guy just starts hitting on me without even knowing me.

ok here is what you should do

1. identify a few situations where you can talk to the same female a few times. for example a girl who sits by you in class or a girl who works at a coffee shop you frequent.

2. establish a friendly raport with the girls in the situations you have identified. Begin the first conversation by talking about the situation and asking her an open ended question, so she will have to talk to you, such as, "oh this math homework is tough. how did you get the answer for number seven?" or "Wow, the coffee here is so good. What type of drink do you reccommend?"

3. if the initial conversation goes okay and she seems like she doesnt mind talking to you, then the next time you see her do the same thing but talk a little bit longer and start asking her about herself and see if you have anything in common. if you do have something in common, tell her.

4. after a few of these conversations you can ask her if she would like to "get together" or "hang out." If she accepts, then you exchange phone numbers. If she says she doesn't want to go on a date, tell her it isn't a date. Call her within the next four days and make plans to get together.

5. once you are hanging out with her, you can talk more and hopefully charm her into wanting to be your girlfriend, kiss you or have sex. These things will come naturally as you hang out if the person is right.

Obviously, this is a very time consuming process and you may have to go through many girls to find that special someone. However, this is how it is done!

I appreciate the help guys...I was a little pissed about the couple posts so don't worry about the response to that...

I would just like to be clear and say that I'm not looking for a relationship because everyone else is doing it...I want it for myself, but maybe I'm not ready...I just have to figure it out.

And also something I didn't mention is that I actually don't have Aspergers or any form of Autism...my doctor and therapist said it was in my head but I still feel like I have some qualities of an Aspie, especially when it comes to this

Thanks.

Although desperation is not an attractive trait, I can see where hes coming from.

Men need love, even ones who aren't "attractive." Sometimes hearing "she'll come eventually" can really piss someone off, it pissed me off all the way through High School( but then again I was told that by the douchier guys).

hey man I'm 18 as well, and I hate the "young" stuff as well, 18 for most men is the peak of puberty, and by that I mean its the age where you want to assert your independence and search for a relationship( if you were the "geek", of your highschool, chances are it may be multiplied.)

What I 've learned the most from just simply living, attractive women love men who simply don't care....

Another way to word it is "don't look so hard."

Bad analogy, don't you think? iPad is not alive and it does not have its own needs and desires. It wouldn't mind if the OP couldn't use it or take care of it. Dig?

And yeah, complaining won't solve anything.

I have NOT made desperate calls to try to change reality. I have pointed out that i wanted a girlfriend, and thats it. I'm not delusional. And i do not assume stupid things, like some people.




Everyone is a mega-troll once in their life, especially when they are a 15 year old brat, that produce 50% incoherent posts that are off topic and totally pointless. Speaking of being an ass...

There s nothing wrong with the OP wanting a relationship now, he can't deny his heart and others on here have no right to say anything against his situation. You wouldn't like it if people said bad things towards you.

I have no problems with people wanting to find love, but he is way out of the farm, the guy seriously has to develop his theory of mind.

He is not alone in this world (meaning he things the world is made for him and he dont have to fight for anything like the rest of us has done) and he cannot FORCE a girl to love him. He is not living in some sort of "Truman show world" where he is the centre of the universe and "order" things - literally.

What if he got a girlfriend tomorrow?
He: "I want you to have red hair".
She: "I dont want to have red hair, i'm happy being a blonde"
He: "You do not understand, i WANT YOU to have RED HAIR!"
She: "Ok, ok (with a scared voice)".

That's how psychopaths are born and how they feed on people.

Then suicide is the only option to end a miserable life, because we all know that the misery won't end NOW.

No, his life can change if he wants to and if he is willing to accept someone else to help him, like a councellor.

(Like i suggesed, but do people read what you type on forums...? Noooooooo...)

Chill out OP, you're kinda weirding me out. D:

Sure, I didn't get my first kiss until I was 19 and in college, kay? So AS girls can have it rough too. It took me two months to work up the courage to ask the guy out. Relationships aren't a magical cure-all. In fact, they can make your life worse. The two sh***y ones I had made it so that I'm wary of every guy that approaches me. I'm trying to get over that. >.<

Also, relationships aren't instantaneous. They aren't like a pre-built house that you can move into immediately. You has to build it. With bricks of love and mortar of trust and all sorts of equally cheesy things. Now, you can rush into it and have a sh***y straw house that will fall apart at the first conflict or take a little bit and build a really nice brick out that can last forever. Awww, I'm full of the cheesy today.

Strong house or straw house, it doesn't matter to me if a relationship falls apart. I just want the PREMISE of having been in a relationship. Anyways, the majority of relationships in the NT world fall apart, and I would be just like them.

But if the house is strong, it's less likely to be destroyed in disaster. Why settle for the blueprint when you can has a big strong pretty house with a well-tended to lawn and flowers and other such things?

I.E. stop being depressing, kthnx. I'm actually feeling good today! ^_^

But why would I want a relationship when there is too much work to do - what she wants, how she feels, blah blah blah. Plus, never having one before, I would be possessive and untrusting of her.

Well, then don't get one. Only when you put in the work will you see results.

No woman is ever worth breaking your back over. They are all human, they have faults also.

A person doesn't have to be flawless in order to be perfect for you. Everyone has faults but if you're able to love each other despite those faults, then happiness for all involved. ^_^