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30 Aug 2010, 10:12 pm

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@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/

@Pistonhead - So it's impossible to maintain any standards after losing one's virginity? I don't believe that.

Ohh dear dear girl..

you are soo lucky I do not know where you go to school..
Because I would send a male stripper to your room.. :twisted:

@Pistonhead .. you live close to her?

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30 Aug 2010, 10:14 pm

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No....not if you are madly in love with that person till the day you die.

It's the breakup, knowing you've been cheated on or used that does it for you. Knowing how little it meant in the real world. It just completely destroys the value you place on it.

That still doesn't justify being irresponsible with one's vagina/penis. :/

@Surya - Um...you would also be traumatizing my roommate in the process. She's even MORE closed up about it than I am. D:

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30 Aug 2010, 10:16 pm

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For me it is. I would never sleep with someone I didn't love because if I did, I would never forgive myself for behaving in such a way. It's just not in character for me to f**k someone because they are good looking. D:

Why would that be a bad thing for you?

You can do whatever floats your boat. None of us are saying you're wrong or anything (just stating our opinions). People like Erisad and I see sex as something that is so intimate that it is to only be engaged in with someone you share such a deep connection with. You might not see it that way. And we're not forcing you to see it our way, just asking that you understand that, yes, some folks think like this...

Now it seems like you are offering to separate opinions. The first opinion was that everyone should think like that the second opinion was that it depends on how you think.

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30 Aug 2010, 10:16 pm

Erisad wrote:

@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/

There's technically nothing wrong with being a slut (i.e., a woman who has (had) multiple sex partners). Sexual purity isn't and shouldn't be the only virtue that defines you as a person.

But kudos for not jumping on the sex-obsessed bandwagon. :thumright:

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30 Aug 2010, 10:18 pm

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Because it's just not in my nature to do that. Maybe it's because I'm still a virgin and I can't just give it up to the first dick I come across. If I were to sleep with someone I didn't love, I wouldn't be a person. I would be an animal incapable of controlling her desires and I don't want that. D:

It's the second sentence. You lose your faith, then your virginity, then your heart and your sexual morality go with it. It's the natural order of the fall from grace.

Sex is for up to 3 people who think I'm sexy. That's my belief :twisted:

That's what psychologists call a "limiting belief" LOL but lets keep this serious we are not in the adult thread.

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30 Aug 2010, 10:18 pm

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I think the myth (particularly popular among girls) that love and sex go hand-in-hand has to go just because how detrimental it has proved to be for teenage girls, but I agree with this:

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Sex is not something that should be used as a fling to meet an ‘itch’. I really think you should help your son pursue meaningful relationships – not pursue sex.

It's dumb to believe that having sex will solve his problems.

And for the record, I'm one of those sex-is-for-procreation-only people. It makes no sense to have sex for fun, just like it makes no sense to eat for fun.

What?

Then what are the people that got fixed supposed to do..
that can't.procreate... and would NOT produce spawn in the first place
and sees people that push out spawn as selfish and full of themselves
because there are plenty of unwanted children..

But sees sex as a great stress relieve.. and ooohhh yess..can't forget that it is FUN!!

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30 Aug 2010, 10:20 pm

JohnisBlind wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

JohnisBlind wrote:

Erisad wrote:

Why would that be a bad thing for you?

Now it seems like you are offering to separate opinions. The first opinion was that everyone should think like that the second opinion was that it depends on how you think.

I'm saying you can think what you want, and I can think what I want.

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30 Aug 2010, 10:21 pm

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Then what are the people that got fixed supposed to do..
that can't.procreate... and would NOT produce spawn in the first place
and sees people that push out spawn as selfish and full of themselves
because there are plenty of unwanted children.

The answer seems so obvious to me, but I don't think I'm allowed to say it on this type of forum.

Just for fun, why don't YOU try to figure it out? :thumright:

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30 Aug 2010, 10:21 pm

Erisad wrote:

Well maybe if you got to know some sluts and whores you would find that they were actually great people and then that might alleviate your fear of sex. idk

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30 Aug 2010, 10:21 pm

menintights wrote:

Erisad wrote:

@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/

Yes there is. If one is a slut then they aren't taken seriously about anything. Want that promotion at work? Nope. Only if you sleep with the boss because everyone knows you're a slut. As a slut, you're only viewed as a free hooker. Yeah, nothing wrong with that at all. D:

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30 Aug 2010, 10:22 pm

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That still doesn't justify being irresponsible with one's vagina/penis. :/

@Surya - Um...you would also be traumatizing my roommate in the process. She's even MORE closed up about it than I am. D:

Pardon me what?...irresponsible

wow...

@JohnisBlind 'but lets keep this serious we are not in the adult thread.'

Why did you not put it there?

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30 Aug 2010, 10:25 pm

JohnisBlind wrote:

Erisad wrote:

Well maybe if you got to know some sluts and whores you would find that they were actually great people and then that might alleviate your fear of sex. idk

Uuum, I would prefer not to know those kinds of people. I already have pressure from my peers to have sex and it's really annoying and even if I didn't fear it, it wouldn't do me any good. Mom would render me homeless if I lost my virginity so it's not going to happen, okay? :/

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30 Aug 2010, 10:26 pm

Surya wrote:

Erisad wrote:

Pistonhead wrote:

Pardon me what?...irresponsible

wow...

Basically giving it to everyone that asks is irresponsible. D:

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30 Aug 2010, 10:26 pm

menintights wrote:

I think the myth (particularly popular among girls) that love and sex go hand-in-hand has to go just because how detrimental it has proved to be for teenage girls, but I agree with this:

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Sex is not something that should be used as a fling to meet an ‘itch’. I really think you should help your son pursue meaningful relationships – not pursue sex.

It's dumb to believe that having sex will solve his problems.

And for the record, I'm one of those sex-is-for-procreation-only people. It makes no sense to have sex for fun, just like it makes no sense to eat for fun.

Well, he's not dumb if he isn't experienced. What kind of impact do you think it will have on him?

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30 Aug 2010, 10:30 pm

Erisad wrote:

JohnisBlind wrote:

Erisad wrote:

Well maybe if you got to know some sluts and whores you would find that they were actually great people and then that might alleviate your fear of sex. idk

Your mom would bale out on you just because you had sex? Are you absolutely sure? I ask because it sounds like you are getting a lot of unhealthy messages from home. It also sounds like she has too much control over your life.

A lot of people with Aspergers also have parents who have similar features so that explains it.

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30 Aug 2010, 10:33 pm

Erisad wrote:

menintights wrote:

Erisad wrote:

@JohnisBlind - Because if I didn't control my desires, I'd be a slut and I don't want to be that. :/

Oh, come on.

I hope you're at least not one of those people who thinks being a serial monogamist is better than being a hooker.

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