"Do you have a gf?"

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I saw her again today, but I didn't bring up the issue.

Just keep talking to her, it's a start and you never know what could happen.

She suspects you gay

Women will seldom ask this question directly unless they really care. If she is a friend or a friendly acquaintance, it usually indicates interest, either for herself or one of her friends who she has in mind for you (and you for her).

The negative version of this (someone asking you this because they dislike you and are looking for a flaw) almost never happens outside of high school or people near high school age, so I wouldn't worry too much about that scenario.

Important point -- someone asking you this doesn't mean you should be all over them like a bad coat. Give them space, answer the question and leave it at that, no need to explain. If no, just say that you're not involved with anyone right now, but are open to dating. Don't pepper her with questions or suddenly turn up the charm. A woman who asks that question might prefer to take things at her pace and control where and when a relationship happens.

The good news is that this has almost always indicated to me that someone was interested in me personally, so it probably is good news for you as well.

I suspect you troll.

As a NT woman I can tell you she is interested. Whenever a woman asks you this she is interested, she wants to know if you are taken.

I'm in a similar situation at the moment...

At least you get asked that question...

I found out that she has a bf. I guess it was a false alarm. Thanks for the replies.

Well not necessarily a false alarm, she could be interested or one of her friends could be and are using her to gather information about you but it would do you well not to over analyze it. As they say, just chill.

Very true. Continue to get to know her as a friend because she may know someone who could be a more suitable match for you than she is.

I'm going to have to disagree with you. Finding out if a guy is taken is one thing, but the actual question "do you have a girlfriend", more of than not, has a double meaning. In high school, it's pretty much a put-down in disguise. After high school, it sounds immature and anachronistic. Much better ways to ask if someone is taken is "are you dating anyone?" if you're under 25 and "are you seeing anyone?" if you 25 or older. David DeAngelo, the author of "Double Your Dating", even suggest asking "are you single?" as a way of finding out if a girl has a boyfriend.