Love.

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I love this quote, it is from a child.

"When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You know that your name is safe in their mouth."

Love happens very rarely. Not when you just want to f**k and date someone for a month and f**k.

Love feels like every emotion at once. Nowadays, It would feel like my head is light. But mostly depressed when I see her wth another man.

The feeling is like super-euphoria but with butterflies in your stomach, and you think about the person you love all the time and always want to be with them for the rest of your life.

love is caring for someone so much that you put their needs ahead of yours.

not so much a mystical thing that happens but rather a chemical change in your brain that keeps you from being lonely and is associated with mating and the eventual reproduction of your genes. i believe it is like the chemical reaction from taking cocaine. you stop eating, stop sleeping, obsessed.

love is designed so you have the ideal child. it's two people who are generally alike or similar (like how people pick pets who look like them. people are more attracted to someone who looks like them. it's so that the good genes are usually passed onto the children i guess.

intelligence is a factor in attraction now, not just physical appearance. if you want to be protected or want someone who can explain things, you would pick someone of higher intelligence. if you want to dominate, you pick someone of lower intelligence. usually you pick someone of similar intelligence.

love feels like a connection. something missing from your life is suddenly there, like a missing puzzle piece. and now that you've experienced the happiness. and you realize that they are more important to you than you are to yourself. that's where love comes in. it's just really selfish. it's yourself being happy.

you find it when you least expect to. there is no point in actively searching for it, because you can't find it by searching. there's not just ONE person for each peson, but it's really just chance that you'll meet someone who fits your criteria. it's like thinking you'll only have one best friend or expect that it's only one group of friends you'll ever have. that is just not the case.

peoplea always think love is a positive thing, but it isn't really. every time yo usee a movie like a rom-com or nice pics there's always like a sadness to it, like love hurts. is it worth it or is it sort of self-destructive? people say they will look anyways even if they know it is self-destructive.

there's always a fear you won't find it. but i've known a couple of people who i was to click with so i think there will be others. i want to be able to see long term relationships objectively. i want to be like Simone de Beauvoir the partner of Sartre. they had a long-term relationship, they were intellectual equals and philosophers but they were not monogamous and nerver married. she was unorthodox and feminist but influenced by sartre. as long as you can keep your creativity while with someone, it is still worth it.

but it isn't the most imprtant goal to me because i don't want to get married or have kids, so me searching for love is selfish. with no marriage contract anyway, the likelihood of a relationship lasting 5 years is not good.

i had nothing interesting to say, so i asked my daughter what she thought. here it is...

"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”

Robert Heinlein

This is the most all encompassing definition of love I have ever encountered. In short,if you love someone their needs and concerns should matter to you just as yours should to them. And, both parties should act accordingly!

How nice.

Your daughter is quite wise, Hyperlexian.

thanks guys! she plans to be a psychologist someday.

I wonder what she would say if she tried to psychoanalyze me... lol

I wonder what she would say if she tried to psychoanalyze me... lol