Obsessions that lead to a broken heart

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Something that worked for me for getting over one "people fixation" was screwing up, accidentally pissing her off, and then being ridden with so much guilt and fear of pissing her off again that that guilt and fear completely overrided any attraction. That didn't work with my other, more major fixation, though. I dunno what to do about her except just hope that the lack of contact will help me forget about her or something...which for something this major takes a long long time.

Well I've never experienced obssessions with people, but I suppose my strategy for avoiding ordinary obsessions could work in this case. Why don't you just distract yourself with other things? Such as work, study, or other interests?

Couldn't! The expression is "I couldn't care less", meaning you care so little that you are at the absolute extreme of not caring, and thus it is impossible to care any less.

Whereas "I could care less" means you DO care, and thus it is possible for you to care to a lesser amount.

In general fitting in Mr. Satanist, who cares about adapting socially for the existing clique. It is like the N.T and aspie conceptualities for the group mentality of facsimiles psychosocially.

To not have care or concern of that contextual relevancy expressed….

That... doesn't make sense.

1. I could care less for something but it certainly is not a concern.

2. Sarcasm, at least I could care even less of something or concerning something.

"I could care less"

There are greater things of concern.

Contextual.

of fitting in or molding to a standard.

Of not normal concern thus lessor.

I do not care.

I could care less of it in comparision to other things.

Yes it does make sense...

yeah wtf are you talking about? And if by chance you are sniffing glue please stop.

It's been a while since anyone has said that kind of bull to me.

If you are unable to fathom what I have said, open a book and think, it's not my problem you lack the intelect. IF you need guidence with what I have said, don't bother trying to instult me, ass.

I'm pretty sure Space was speaking in jest, sc. And to be honest, I still have no idea what you're on about.

I'm sure that the two of you are forum buddies of some sort, an insult of that nature is like a prick just asking for it.

Insults I do not except and I respond to them worse then critism. Perhaps he sniffs the stuff himself and has become an air head.

What part do you not understand, shall I start another post concerning the conceptology of N.T and otherwise?

You can add another one to that list. So that's three 'forum buddies'. Or maybe you're just paranoid? Who knows.

So you want to insult me as well, parnoid huh?

Anyone else want a shot? Come on... Go for it..

There are some major a***holes on this bored and I'm counting a few here right now.

What did I do to you? Share some music, my life, thoughts and just try to be nice. Are some so unhappy with there life they have to stir up horse shi*?

Find someone else to take it out on..

Enigmatic_Oddity was merely saying that he does not understand your message. Calling him an a***hole is unwarranted. I do not understand your message either, it does not make sense to me.

Did that once, tried telling a girl I was stalking her (wtf) and I haven't been same since.

Wow. *shakes head, stunned* That article pretty much sums up my entire life. Thanks for posting it. I knew that some aspies experience something like this, but beyond that I didn't know that it was a known phenomenon, that there's a name for it, etc. This part is especially true - "During the height of limerence, thoughts of the limerent object are both persistent and intrusive. Limerence is first and foremost a condition of cognitive obsession. All events, associations, stimuli, and experiences return thoughts to the limerent object with unnerving consistency. The constant thoughts about the limerent object define all other experiences. If a certain thought has no previous connection with the limerent object, immediately one is made." The other thing that's so true is where they say that it's involuntary - you don't get to control when it happens, the intensity of it, or who the person is. It just happens.

I always wondered if this is related to OCD, and if so, do regular OCD treatments work? Anyone know? At age 29 I've been fighting this for as long as I can remember, and I haven't found any helpful strategies so far.

It's interesting that they say you become shy when you're around the person IRL. That happens to me, but I'm very quiet/introverted with all people, so I just thought that being around the person was giving me a reality check and knocking my interactions with them into a more normal realm (what's normal socially for the aspie in me at least). Maybe it's actually that shyness they mentioned kicking in.

The only thing that doesn't quite fit about all this, they say that the person you're obsessed with (limerent object) is always a potential sexual partner. My LO's have always been male (I'm female) and I always wondered why that was. At the same time though, my obsessions have never had any sexual component (at least not on a conscious level), it's basically just an intense, all-consuming desire for a general platonic connectedness/close friendship with the person.

Very interesting... I tried to research Limerence a bit more but it seems like most websites repeat each other - no new info.

Last edited by neongrl on 05 Jun 2006, 8:34 am, edited 1 time in total.

I wasn't attacking you, sc. I don't even see how what I said could be interpreted that way. I just don't understand what you're trying to say.