Dating a celebrity = bad idea?

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My conclusion: He was after a casual hookup/one night stand, maybe got overconfident that I would do that with him because of having an overinflated ego (thus explaining why he persisted for so long - figured I would wear down eventually?) and finally gave up after he realized that I was only after a relationship and he wouldn't get anything like that from me.

My confusion: He seemed to put an inordinate amount of time and effort into talking to me and getting to know me, telling me personal things about himself, and discussing all these future things we could do together, for someone who was just after a casual hookup. Even taking into account overconfidence, or him enjoying the chase, or something along those lines.

Other possible conclusions: He was being honest in that he is too busy, plus traveling too much, but felt lonely and maybe wanted an ongoing causal thing with someone in Brisbane whenever he was around.

Plus this sort of thing seems to happen a lot. If you're a young, attractive, naive female then you're pretty much shark bait on the dating scene. Normally guys are more upfront or their intentions are clear to me so I am able to steer clear of all the ones that just want to sleep with me, but this guy was obviously really good at deception. He said towards the start of our conversing that he liked me for my personality and not for my appearance, and normally I can pick that as a warning sign when a guy rants on and on about how "beautiful" I am (in really over the top language, clearly exaggerating).

I don't know, but he seems to be very smart. Business oriented more. Clearly smart enough to fool me and all my friends too that he was the real deal (he appeared to really care about me and like me for me). But I guess I am pretty naive and trusting, and maybe I described the situation to them through rose coloured lenses without meaning to.

My problem is that once I decide I like someone (once I cross that line), even if I've only known them a short time I get strongly attached to them and zoned in on them. Detaching myself is a slow, hard, and painful process. I know I need to get out there and try dating people if I ever want to even have a hope of finding a partner, but I take hits hard and don't shift from person to person easily. It can be very destructive for my emotional well-being.

Plus this sort of thing seems to happen a lot. If you're a young, attractive, naive female then you're pretty much shark bait on the dating scene. Normally guys are more upfront or their intentions are clear to me so I am able to steer clear of all the ones that just want to sleep with me, but this guy was obviously really good at deception. He said towards the start of our conversing that he liked me for my personality and not for my appearance, and normally I can pick that as a warning sign when a guy rants on and on about how "beautiful" I am (in really over the top language, clearly exaggerating).

I avoid going to clubs altogether these days (even for friends birthdays) because I normally get cornered by a guy in the first 5 minutes who just wants to get into my pants. It's dangerous. I once had to hide in the toilets to get away from one of these guys, and I waited a good 15 to 20 minutes thinking surely he would have given up by that point, but when I walked out he was still there waiting for me. But yeah, you don't expect to have to watch out for this sort of thing during the day when you're just trying to go about your daily life.

it is a PUA technique to emphasize a beautiful woman's other assets so that she thinks you are different from all the other guys. he is very good at his technique, but it doesn't make him less of a douchebag. you were a challenge for him, and he would have been really happy to have seduced you because it was that much harder.