Lack of common interests

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I like to just look at the sky, I like the weather, I like just staring out into space.

It's very interesting that I am very outgoing but very nervous at the same time and have a high amount of anxiety around girls. I get embarrassed of my interests so I ask theirs. For a background no I have never been on a date. Asked many girls out but all said no and seemed very uncomfortable that I asked them. What I wouldn't give to meet a girl who I could be comfortable with and who would understand I have flaws but that I am a good person inside.

ME TOO! especially clouds and lightning and hail and other interesting weather.

Weather is a very common interest in the aspy community from what I've read. Not exactly common outside of it.

Where do you think an aspie whose special interests are infrared photography, astronomy, hiking, analytical philosophy can find a potential girlfriend?

For photography and astronomy, I'd suggest going to some sort of club. For hiking, I think there are singles weekends sometimes. I don't have a clue about the analytical philosophy, so I have no idea of where to look. Although, I don't think anyone would easily find a girl who has an interest in everything they are interested in, involvment in some form of social group ups the possibility of meeting a compatible girl.

Though, remember to try look at how the girl you like acts around you. If she acts like you're a brother figure, she'll probably not be looking at you as a possible date. If she's looking for excuses to touch you, she may say yes to a date.

Women can get very annoyed/distressed at guys who ask them out when they have given non-verbal signals that they're not interested. Learning the non-verbal signals (possible dating signals) is a difficult thing even for NT guys as far as I've heard, it's not impossible though. If you have a female friend (be sure that this female friend has you in friend-zone) that you can ask about this kind of thing, it can really help.

Oh, another thing, if she's just broken up with someone it is mostly not the right time to ask her out (if she seems interested) unless you want to be the rebound guy (depends on circumstance).

I hope I've been of some help.

I keep being called weird cause I enjoy messing with my laser pointer. I find it fun. No I never shine it in peoples houses or anything. Probably not something I should bring up with the ladies. Just makes me feel like a weirdo.

I like looking at the clear, night sky. The stars are beautiful.

I did. There was not a single girl there. Moreover my infrared photography is always seen as hectic.



That is the problem. There is NEVER any girl around me.

Sorry about that, if I had better advice I'd give it.

Yeah, some hobbies are just so male dominated that it is really tough to meet a girl with that hobby. Really feeling down tonight. So frustrating to think about. Not the hobbies thing, just about girls in general.

I'm in the same boat. It seems I only meet a girl that I'd be interested in getting to know better about once a year. Every time it happens, I'll find out she's already married or in a relationship. Unfortunately, this just repeated itself earlier this month so if the pattern holds true, it'll be at least another year before I meet someone that I can even think about wanting to ask out.

It takes work. It is possible to be good friends with people who don't have common interests. I've had to practice and go through therapy.