The_Face_of_Boo
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19 Nov 2010, 12:24 pm
19 Nov 2010, 12:47 pm
19 Nov 2010, 12:51 pm
ApsieGuy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Grisha wrote:
Moog wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Btw, is that you in your avatar?
Me, or Grisha?
Grish looks like Charile Sheen or something.
Yes, that's me, and thanks for the advice - I'll try OKC just to make me feel like I'm doing something.
I wonder if all the profiles seem the same because people use books or something - like when baby name books became popular and an entire generation of American males ended up getting named "Conner".
Your look is a huge advantage: manly wide jaws , small eyes , high chin, healthy skin, symmetric face....etc. You have the face traits that most girls find attractive, I always observe well the guy whom the girls around are talking about how attractive he is, and usually such guy in question has similar face features.
I agree with Aspieguy.....it must be your social skills (but I am not surprised since this is an AS forum).
Let me break down what this guy has:
-A really good job
-A pretty face(not gay)
-A caring personality
Even WITH bad social skills. He has two superficial traits that are VERY valuable in the dating market...a pretty face...and a good job.
I'm sure there is some average looking chick that would overlook his social awkwardness...as long as he's not an a**hole(Which he may come off as one) and marry him
This guy might be setting the bar too high....or he isn't trying.
Definitely the social skills, I rarely smile and it only takes a short time to figure out that I'm a little "off". Actually, I'm pretty good at attracting desirable females IRL, but I scare them away just as quickly - kind of a sick joke. The LTRs I've had have only occurred because the woman stuck around long enough to discover who I really am.
Anyway, Thanks for the encouragement
19 Nov 2010, 1:07 pm
19 Nov 2010, 1:22 pm
Grisha wrote:
ApsieGuy wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Grisha wrote:
Moog wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Btw, is that you in your avatar?
Me, or Grisha?
Grish looks like Charile Sheen or something.
Yes, that's me, and thanks for the advice - I'll try OKC just to make me feel like I'm doing something.
I wonder if all the profiles seem the same because people use books or something - like when baby name books became popular and an entire generation of American males ended up getting named "Conner".
Your look is a huge advantage: manly wide jaws , small eyes , high chin, healthy skin, symmetric face....etc. You have the face traits that most girls find attractive, I always observe well the guy whom the girls around are talking about how attractive he is, and usually such guy in question has similar face features.
I agree with Aspieguy.....it must be your social skills (but I am not surprised since this is an AS forum).
Let me break down what this guy has:
-A really good job
-A pretty face(not gay)
-A caring personality
Even WITH bad social skills. He has two superficial traits that are VERY valuable in the dating market...a pretty face...and a good job.
I'm sure there is some average looking chick that would overlook his social awkwardness...as long as he's not an a**hole(Which he may come off as one) and marry him
This guy might be setting the bar too high....or he isn't trying.
Definitely the social skills, I rarely smile and it only takes a short time to figure out that I'm a little "off". Actually, I'm pretty good at attracting desirable females IRL, but I scare them away just as quickly - kind of a sick joke. The LTRs I've had have only occurred because the woman stuck around long enough to discover who I really am.
Anyway, Thanks for the encouragement
Well, then force yourself to smile more? Social skills can be improved upon man.
Date some chick with a worse job/worse looking than you. I can assure you 100% there's a lot of s**t she will put up with....including aspergers
19 Nov 2010, 1:37 pm
ApsieGuy wrote:
With all due respect, I really find it hard to believe that a semi good looking guy with a good job can't find a girlfriend unless he had REALLY high standars....bad social skills or not. 
What are you doing wrong?
It seems women have these un-reasonable expectations that we men can't possibly meet. All we really expect is a chick to be decent looking and not be a pain in the ass to be around.
What are you doing wrong?
It seems women have these un-reasonable expectations that we men can't possibly meet. All we really expect is a chick to be decent looking and not be a pain in the ass to be around.
I really wish I knew - if I had to guess I'd probably say that it's my intense and reflexive shyness. Actually letting a woman know that I am attracted to her is almost as mortifying to me as finding myself naked in a public place ( not a huge exaggeration) in fact, I try very hard NOT to look interested. I can't seem to overcome this IRL - but online is a different story...
19 Nov 2010, 1:47 pm
Grisha wrote:
ApsieGuy wrote:
With all due respect, I really find it hard to believe that a semi good looking guy with a good job can't find a girlfriend unless he had REALLY high standars....bad social skills or not.
What are you doing wrong?
It seems women have these un-reasonable expectations that we men can't possibly meet. All we really expect is a chick to be decent looking and not be a pain in the ass to be around.
What are you doing wrong?
It seems women have these un-reasonable expectations that we men can't possibly meet. All we really expect is a chick to be decent looking and not be a pain in the ass to be around.
I really wish I knew - if I had to guess I'd probably say that it's my intense and reflexive shyness. Actually letting a woman know that I am attracted to her is almost as mortifying to me as finding myself naked in a public place ( not a huge exaggeration) in fact, I try very hard NOT to look interested. I can't seem to overcome this IRL - but online is a different story...
Well, that's definitely shooting yourself in the foot. You could do a lot about that. Train yourself into a habit of showing interest rather than hiding it. If you can't do it yourself, consider seeing a hypnotist.
19 Nov 2010, 1:47 pm
19 Nov 2010, 3:45 pm
Moog wrote:
Grisha wrote:
ApsieGuy wrote:
With all due respect, I really find it hard to believe that a semi good looking guy with a good job can't find a girlfriend unless he had REALLY high standars....bad social skills or not.
What are you doing wrong?
It seems women have these un-reasonable expectations that we men can't possibly meet. All we really expect is a chick to be decent looking and not be a pain in the ass to be around.
What are you doing wrong?
It seems women have these un-reasonable expectations that we men can't possibly meet. All we really expect is a chick to be decent looking and not be a pain in the ass to be around.
I really wish I knew - if I had to guess I'd probably say that it's my intense and reflexive shyness. Actually letting a woman know that I am attracted to her is almost as mortifying to me as finding myself naked in a public place ( not a huge exaggeration) in fact, I try very hard NOT to look interested. I can't seem to overcome this IRL - but online is a different story...
Well, that's definitely shooting yourself in the foot. You could do a lot about that. Train yourself into a habit of showing interest rather than hiding it. If you can't do it yourself, consider seeing a hypnotist.
very good advice. it's a crap shoot with dating sites. eventually you still have to meet the girl in person.
19 Nov 2010, 4:21 pm
menintights wrote:
In all honesty, I don't find your face particularly attractive. It looks a little generic to me, like there's no personality behind it. It's not repulsive, but it's not exactly attractive either. It's just there.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Not quite "full-body", but recent (August) - I think I look just fine except for the blank Aspie-face - I look scary but that's how I look most of the time...
I'm not scary on the inside though, I didn't ask to be like this.
19 Nov 2010, 4:28 pm
Grisha wrote:
menintights wrote:
In all honesty, I don't find your face particularly attractive. It looks a little generic to me, like there's no personality behind it. It's not repulsive, but it's not exactly attractive either. It's just there.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Not quite "full-body", but recent (August) - I think I look just fine except for the blank Aspie-face - I look scary but that's how I look most of the time...
I'm not scary on the inside though, I didn't ask to be like this.
you dont look scary, you look sensitive and sensuous
19 Nov 2010, 4:31 pm
The_Face_of_Boo
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19 Nov 2010, 4:41 pm
19 Nov 2010, 4:53 pm
Grisha wrote:
menintights wrote:
In all honesty, I don't find your face particularly attractive. It looks a little generic to me, like there's no personality behind it. It's not repulsive, but it's not exactly attractive either. It's just there.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Not quite "full-body", but recent (August) - I think I look just fine except for the blank Aspie-face - I look scary but that's how I look most of the time...
I'm not scary on the inside though, I didn't ask to be like this.
not scary to me either. sort of dark and brooding, which is perhaps outside of the norm where you live?
19 Nov 2010, 5:07 pm
hyperlexian wrote:
Grisha wrote:
menintights wrote:
In all honesty, I don't find your face particularly attractive. It looks a little generic to me, like there's no personality behind it. It's not repulsive, but it's not exactly attractive either. It's just there.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Not quite "full-body", but recent (August) - I think I look just fine except for the blank Aspie-face - I look scary but that's how I look most of the time...
I'm not scary on the inside though, I didn't ask to be like this.
not scary to me either. sort of dark and brooding, which is perhaps outside of the norm where you live?
Is "dark and brooding" the norm anywhere?
I'm NOT like that inside! In that photo I was probably thinking about how cool and mysterious the San Onofre Breccia (a geological formation nearby) was, or looking to see if any Ligia occidentalis were lurking around the high intertidal or something like that.
I'm a nerd, not Nietzsche! Will my outsides ever match my insides? Will anyone ever be able to see who I really am?
Aspergers sucks.
19 Nov 2010, 5:45 pm
Grisha wrote:
menintights wrote:
In all honesty, I don't find your face particularly attractive. It looks a little generic to me, like there's no personality behind it. It's not repulsive, but it's not exactly attractive either. It's just there.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Then again, there's only so much you can tell from a face alone. A full-body shot would've said a lot more about you, and it might've made you stand out more. Whether or not it'll work to your advantage, it really depends on your actual personality.
Not quite "full-body", but recent (August) - I think I look just fine except for the blank Aspie-face - I look scary but that's how I look most of the time...
I'm not scary on the inside though, I didn't ask to be like this.
Underexposed. OT, who took this pic? Maybe if the shutter time was increased or the aperture was wide, say F3.5-4 and shot in RAW, you can this pic look a lot better.
Yea I but can understand that some of us crave social interaction and/or a relationship but the way our brain works and how people initially perceive aspies keeps us from sealing the deal.
